Stylin’ @ Safeway. Met Gala. Tokyo Style.

Maka. San Rafael, California. April 2017.

I approached Maka in the check out line at Safeway. I was late, as usual and already had the store manager helping me find random ingredients to make a Greek soda for a school pot luck – What’s lime grind?

This jacket, denim, blinged out, made me have to ask this mom to take her photo. She asked to see some proof of an actual website, and that maybe I do have kids. During this photo shoot, we were getting a lot of attention from the population of homeless who hang out at this particular Safeway. It’s not funny at all, it’s sad – but what I learned is these people, were quite helpful in calling out photographic directions.

Maka moved here from Tokyo recently. We became fast friends, as she worked in fashion and wants to go vintage shopping with me. It’s hard adjusting to a new culture, so I immediately connected Maka with my friend Yuriko, who is another Japanese transplant. I admit it makes me feel good to bring people together. Having kids can be lonely – you need support, especially when you are so far from home.

REI KAWAKUBO: But let’s talk Japanese fashion.  The 2017 theme of The Metropolitan Museum of Art Costume Institute exhibition and Met Gala is Rei Kawakubo/Comme des Garçons. Opening on May 4, the show will be the first monograph exhibition at the museum featuring a living designer since its Yves Saint Laurent exhibit in 1983.

THE METROPOLITAN MUSEUM OF ART: In June, I’ll be at The Met, checking out the exhibit. But most of all it’s the people viewing the exhibit that will be most fascinating. The style at fashion exhibits in NYC, or any major city is so stimulating, I just people watch for hours- and hope that I’m cool enough to be style checked as well.

So we can’t all go to the Met Gala, but thanks to The Metropolitan Museum of Art, some of us can have a little peak into the world of high style/art/celebrity/design….For more information, http://www.metmuseum.org

YUP. 1980’s perfection. and it was only $35 – my kinda woman.

Just remember even if you are shorter, you can pull off long jackets – with NO HEELS!

Shoulder pad action.

 

The New York Times. My Style Validator.

Mara Meter

Me. San Rafael, California. Unable to remove my credit card from the meter

Yes,  this has happened to me before and no, I’ll never learn.  Why aren’t our tax dollars going toward meters that can accommodate various nail lengths? Is our society only built for hands with regular length nails?

Fashion Notes: Moccasins: Minnetonka, Leggings: Lululemon, Bag: Chanel, Top: Zara

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If you look closely, you can see my green credit card stuck..until I solicited help from a very confused meter maid – apparently, they are not in the business of helping people who choose style over function. But, with my “charming” persistence, I was able to get the help I needed.

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Nails are so “in” right now. As usual, I’ve been pulling off these bad boys for a few years. It started with Madonna on the cover of VOGUE, with long, pointy gold nails. I had to have them. No matter how many of you, were horrified by what you labeled “cheesy” – I pulled through and proved you all wrong.

My own mother was not a fan of my long, semi-pointy nails. Until, the Jewish bible (aka, The New York Times) ran a Sunday fashion story on this nail trend, http://www.nytimes.com/2016/04/11/t-magazine/fashion/long-pointed-nails-trend-manicure.html?_r=0

So once again, it has been proven that I have quite a style instinct, thank you Fashion of the Times.

Maybe I can’t type or use a regular phone, maybe I didn’t hang up my phone properly and someone had to hear me yell at my offspring, maybe I accidentally lit a nail on fire and didn’t notice, until my child pointed it out – but it’s all worth it, in the name of style.

Some Haute moms and their long nails:

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Parisians think Brooklyn Style is HAUTE

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Thomas Palauqui. Marin Country Mart. Marin County. February 2016.

Is Thomas from Brooklyn or Paris? It’s unclear, and I’m onto something here. Parisian men are influenced by Brooklyn style, and do it well.. the American urban style mixed with Parisian tailoring is an alluring combination. Thomas is dressed quite casually, but he’s given his look some thought…and yes, he’s French.

Vogue wrote about Brooklyn’s street style and its influence on Parisian men…. http://www.vogue.com/13354833/paris-brooklyn-men-street-style/

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Thomas is General Manager of Monsieur Benjamin, http://www.monsieurbenjamin.com a modern Parisian restaurant and bar in San Francisco.

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Thomas isn’t wearing any French designers, he’s in American designs -but Thomas puts them together in a very French manner. From the collar up to his chic diaper bag (aka man diaper bag).

Fashion Notes: Jean Jacket: GAP 1969, Pants & Sweater: J.Crew, Kicks: New Balance, Sunglasses: Ray Ban

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See guys, you don’t always have to hem your pants..they look cool a little loose…

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I always love a pair of old school New Balance sneakers..it’s a good option, if you are confused which sneakers to buy..always go simple.

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Bag: Ika Bags Paris. A very cool looking bag to carry diapers.

Haute Style Profile.

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“Each month, we ask our stylish mamas and local tastemakers to spill their secrets and share their stuff. Here, the fashion blogger behind Haute Drop-Off, Mara Menachem, lets us in on the one thing she can’t live without. Read on!” (Southern Marin Moms Club Newsletter)

STYLE + BEAUTY

Favorite piece of jewelry: A cocktail ring my mom bought for my grandmother, when she was in Paris, and my grandmother watched the four of us.

One thing in your wardrobe you can’t live without: My jean jacket collection, loving my new grunge one from INTERMIX.

Style Icons: Lisa Bonet, Joy Bryant, Chloe Sevigny, SJP as Carrie Bradshaw, Patricia Field, Anna Dello Russo (editor at VOGUE Japan), Bill Cunningham, because he knows how to pick ’em, Dolly Parton & Tina Turner, the sexiest women in show business at any age.

Daily uniform: Floral shorts, Frye ankle boots, gold door-knocker earrings, jean jacket, and ankle socks (sometimes with Chanel flats).

Jeans: USED. They have to be worn in…or very tight. The butt is everything in jeans.

Swimwear: Brazilians always make the best suits. If you can wear a bikini, tiny floral prints are the most flattering. I always think a black one-piece is classic and elegant.

Favorite accessory: My white Lanvin bag purchased at a consignment store in Aspen, Acid wash jean jacket, gold door-knocker earrings in the largest size made, and my gold hoop nose ring.

Describe your personal style: I adore vintage, accessories, and old handbags. Your 90-year-old grandmother’s closet is an exciting place for me!

Skincare: I’m crazy about Fresh’s Rice Oil. It makes you smell amazing.

Scent: LaVanilla makes great smelling stuff. I admit to liking Patchouli, too.

Lipstick: I stick to clear. Want BIG lips without the surgery? Smashbox O Plump does the trick.

Who colors your hair: Sonja Avallone at Christopher Salon in Mill Valley.

Favorite store: Hidden Treasures in Topanga is unbelievable, the original Century 21, Jeffrey NYC for drooling purposes, Intermix, Goodwill, Zara (but they are now off my list due to some poor practices).

Where do you get a facial: Lisa Perkins 415-272-8108, leave looking dewy and gorgeous.

LIFESTYLE

Must-have: Sun, friends, social interaction.

Influences: I think I’m influenced by humanity, photography.

What inspires you: People inspire me, if I could talk to and observe people as a career, I would.

Item you keep purchasing over and over: Jean jackets.

Something no ones knows about you: I’m shy.

First thing you do every morning: Cuddle with whoever is around.

Signature staple: Short Shorts/Skirt/Dresses.

Pet peeve: Not a lot bothers me, but I would appreciate a nod or a thank you if I open the door for you.

Guilty pleasures: Donuts, talking to strangers & enormous earrings.

Favorite holiday: Halloween is so fun – and I love visiting my brother Seth in LA for Hanukkah, mostly because of the donuts.

Favorite workout: Yoga at Marin Power Yoga & Spinning.

Overrated: Being perfect.

VIRTUAL

Websites you always check: Humans of New York, NY Times, The Sartorialist, Facebook, Page 6 occasionally.

Bloggers you follow: The Sartorialist, Bill Cunningham.

Mama bloggers you follow: Scary Mommy, HuffPost Parents.

On your iPod: Lauryn Hill, lots of 1990’s R&B, Simon & Garfunkel, Cat Stevens, Run DMC, Beyonce, Aretha Franklin, Mahalia Jackson, Neal Casal.

Favorite people to follow on Instagram: Afropunk

ENTERTAINMENT

Celebrity crush: Ben Harper, Louis CK and Larry David.

Favorite artist, past or present: Bill Cunningham. Not sure if people consider him an artist, but I do. He has made fashion into something that’s not snobby or inaccessible. Michael Moore. He created films that not only
rocked the boat and took major risks and exposed horror, but actually change occurred. I guess that’s not usually the expectation of art, but it’s one I admire.

Best place to hear music: Coming from Miami, Marin/San Francisco is heaven on earth for live music. I think Big Sur is a special place, Greek Theater in Berkeley, and I love The Sweetwater, and when I’m really wanting to be around the “jam band” crowd, it’s Phil Lesh’s place Terrapin Crossroads in San Rafael.

Best show on TV: Curb Your Enthusiasm is my all time favorite. I also love Louis CK, and Sex and The City re-runs, I also love watching The Goldberg’s with my kids

Favorite magazine: Psychology Today, I promise they have the most interesting articles.

Favorite book: Animal Farm

Favorite podcast: NPR All Songs Considered and This American Life, and Ted Talks.

PLACES

Favorite museum: The Victoria & Albert Museum in London.

Favorite restaurant: Zuma in Miami & my close friend’s husband Vinny Dotolo’s spot Son of a Gun.

Favorite domestic travel spot: Big Sur, Miami & Aspen.

Favorite international travel spot: Someplace new.

Best-kept secret: Rancho Nicasio, it’s an authentic Northern California bar in West Marin.

Favorite city: NYC & London.

Favorite hotel: The Ellerman House in Cape Town – where we stayed on our honeymoon.

Favorite hike: Aspen Mountain, it’s so hard, feels like it’s never going to end…and then it does.

KIDS

First-year must-haves: Friends to tell you it gets better, and lots of nights out to remind you of your life before…

Best day with the kids: The best night for me, was getting in late from the airport on our way to camp, and hanging out in one of those super gas stations drinking slurpees, and talking to people. Taking them to see Super Diamond, the Neil Diamond cover band in Aspen.

Best place to see a movie with your kid(s): Fairfax in town, and Larkspur, my youngest and I had the best date their ever, I took him to see Chef, a little inappropriate.

Kids’ fashion brand: Trunk vintage concert T’s.

Favorite ritual you have with your kid(s): Dance parties, late night desert outings, playing card games, hang man..just being spontaneous, because that’s the mom they got.

Best park: Berkeley Playground or Golden Gate Park.

Favorite children’s movie: Jerry Lewis and Peter Sellers,.. so fun to watch with them, and Vacation (kind of inappropriate).

Betsey. Playboy. Paris. Models. Famed Photographer. Haute.

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Bronwyn Chovel. Paris, France. July 2014. Mom. Model. Artist Rep.

Fashion Notes: Dress: Besty Johnson, Sandals: Purchased in Greece, Sunglasses: Ray Ban. Bronwyn’s little girl is wearing a hand smocked cotton dress.

Bronwyn is not Parisian – she actually hails from Miami, and now lives in the San Francisco Bay Area.  Bronwyn has been modeling for years, and currently with all her experience as a client, is representing artists.  One of her clients is famed photographer, Greg Lotus who currently shot the cover of the August Playboy. Greg’s work can be seen in Vogue, W, Vanity Fair, Out etc.. Bronwyn is surrounded by the creative, after being in the fashion industry modeling for years – – – I want to hang out with Bronwyn and Greg for a few hours!!

I spotted Bronwyn (even though we had been connected through several people) at a famed Mill Valley spot, The Sweetwater Music Hall.  It was a week day morning, and a beautiful, chic and sophisticated woman sat sipping coffee at the bar.  Bronwyn has that I’m “somebody” model look, but not in an offensive way – because it’s all unintentional.  Bronwyn is sweet, kind and hails from a family filled with loving, fun people –

Now back to Bronwyn’s dress – – -Betsey Johnson and I have been best friends for years, ever since I would sift through her sales basket in her Coconut Grove Store (which has been closed for years).  I’m lying, but in my imagination Betsey and I were great friends.  She did cart wheels at the end of all her runway shows, and I once exchanged words with her cool daughter, Lulu when I was living in NYC working in fashion.

My passion for Betsey was formed early in my fashion development.  I actually wore a Betsey Johnson plaid, punk looking dress to every Bar/Bat Mitzvah, Quinceanera and debutante coming out party  -remember I grew up in Miami, we had lots of parties from the age of 12-16.  I knew most of the salespeople in the Miami store, only because I felt it was okay to hang around the store as it were a contemporary art museum…looking, but not purchasing any of the great works.

The women in the Miami store were gorgeous – after all, it was Miami.  They weren’t totally hip, like their Colombus Avenue counterparts.  But Miami salespeople, made Betsey Johnson clothing damn sexy..and as inappropriate as it sounds now, that 11 year old child wanted to look just like them.  I promised myself, I would one day work at Betsey Johnson.

Betsey’s clothing was a combination of funky, sexy, cool and didn’t follow any particular seasonal trend.  Even at 11, I could spot a Betsey Johnson garment – – she stuck to her fashion ideals, and continued to be unique.  I never did get that job at BetseyJohnson, but always appreciate how her clothing somehow, made me feel passionate and excited to be a part of the crazy, artistic world of fashion – – even if her stores didn’t take returns (store credit).

I know Betsey still does cartwheels at the end of all her runway shows – -She makes fashion fun and lighthearted – – As is should be. Here’s a shot of Bronwyn is the ocean – looking chic in a black bikini and you can peak at her discreet tattoo.

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Haute Fashionista Shrink. Today Contributor at Drop-Off.

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Dr. Joy Jacobs. Mom. Psychologist. Fashion Lover. Southern California. June 2014.

Fashion Notes: Ray Ban sunglasses, Forever 21 boyfriend jeans, J. Crew belt, Celine bag, Converse, designed by Commes de Garçon.

What I really appreciate about Joy, is her openness about her career choices in life..and sharing the truth behind finding what you truly love in life, outside of being a mother.  I usually don’t do this, but I’m sharing Joy’s words verbatim…Because anyone who spent three years at Harvard Law, because they refuse to quit, is impressive in my book.

“As a shrink and fashion lover, I believe that nothing says more about where we are in our lives and who we are than our fashion choices.  I love to explore the psychology behind fashion and what it means.  I have had a very unorthodox career path.  I grew up in a family of lawyers and went to law school right out of college.  I suffered through three years at Harvard Law because I am not a “quitter”.

I hated every day of law and the NY firm that I went to after graduation happened to be located literally right next to Barneys.  My whole paycheck went there!  I quickly realized I was not going to figure out what I “really” wanted to do with my life working 100 hr weeks and getting zero sleep and spending my whole paycheck on clothes trying to soothe my tortured soul.

After winding my way in the publishing world in New York for a couple of years, I landed at Vogue.  It was heaven for someone who adored fashion …you can imagine.  Finally, I decided I wanted to go back to school and study psychology–something that had always been of deep interest to me.

I ended up in San Diego because I got a fellowship to study obesity and eating disorders.  I believe you cannot love fashion and be unaware of the constant push/pull around body image and health.  I am now a clinical psychologist specializing in all eating and weight related issues.

The saving grace for me as a fashion lover in SoCal has been the internet.  Without it I could not function.  What I miss most is the energy of NYC and street fashion.  Wedge sneakers are only now making their way here…about 3 years too late!”.