Dead Head Dads.

Terrapin Crossroads. San Rafael, California. April 2017.

Dan Barman, a dad (shown here with a friend’s kid) and well known Brooklyn based drummer.

Terrapin Crossroads is owned by Phil Lesh, bassist of The Grateful Dead. The outdoor patio is open to the public many weekends in the Spring, where families can hear this legend jam with other musicians, eat, drink and kids can play on the playground.

The fashion for The Grateful Dead dad is really all about the hair & the big smile (they are so happy to take their kids to hear Phil Lesh), but here are my observations;

  • beards, really thick & long – or just messy & scruffy
  • T-shirts from old concerts, or just a soft cotton solid
  • Sandals, did not notice any Birkenstocks
  • long hair.. the curlier, the better. Dreads always preferred
  • bohemian man buns, which are not to be confused with the popular “man bun”.
    • bun is looser
    • intentional messy look

Such a good dad protecting his daughter’s ears.

This dad has amazing hair, those waves!! It was a gorgeous weekend, very good hair weather.

 

I Keep on Truckin’ in Door Knockers & Chanel

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April 2017. Somewhere in California…..Keep on Truckin’

Love the patches, especially since I now live in Grateful Dead country, and that’s an original patch – little did anyone know, it would be worn with stilettos and a large classic Chanel bag.

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This 70’s jean jacket was hiding in between two vintage hawaiian shirts at the vintage flea market in Oakland. You would think I won the lottery, I was so excited – – -and for $70.00, it was mine. Oversized, original patches, perfect color and rips in all the right places – I landed on vintage denim perfection. Sunglass are from Madewell, www.madewell.com

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These amazing door knockers are personalized with my name – from Melody Ehsani, https://melodyehsani.com and my chandelier earrings are from Neiman Marcus by Oscar de la Renta

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My heels are from the Off Fifth, the Saks Fifth Avenue outlet store – they were maybe $20. The sun dress was also a random and very inexpensive find. Most people, would say it’s really a top!! The bag, Chanel – not inexpensive, but I like to think of it as an “investment” piece, investment in my style 🙂

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The oversized jean jacket, makes a mini-dress seem more comfortable. I can wear it open or hide behind the bagginess.

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Seeeeee I can hide under this huge jacket!

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Photos: T. Palmer, Styling: Me..

 

 

 

 

Chanel doesn’t make me Shallow. Grateful Dead Haute.

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Dari. Terrapin Crossroads. San Rafael, California. August 2016.

On Friday night, I met my friend for a drink at Terrapin Crossroads owned by Phil Lesh (famed bass player of The Grateful Dead). The music venue/bar/restaurant in Marin County just added a huge outdoor space with a modern playground entertaining most kids. I have to say, having a place where parents can listen to live music, have a great meal and a cocktail, while their children play outdoors (no site of iPads) is kind of a brilliant idea.  Where else can you take small children on a Friday night, where they can run around and be free -without judgmental looks?

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Here I am listening to the music in my new Vince Camuto Gladiator sandals from 02 in Aspen and SUNCOO Paris gypsy skirt from Pitkin County Dry Goods – all on sale! Lately, I’ve been wearing my Chanel bag a lot – even with my workout clothing. Sometimes, I feel like designer bags are so showy and I get embarrassed  – especially where I live now. When I go to places like Terrapin Crossroads, filled with so many people who are products of the counter culture movement, I temporary question my style choices.

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I think to myself; “Mara, you idiot, you are surrounded by people dressed in tie dye t-shirts and pants (yes, they make tie dye pants), some with fanny packs, ripped jeans, hippie skirts and lots of very comfortable looking footwear – and you are wearing a designer bag, like a capitalist jerk!!”  I think maybe I should have brought my old faithful bag, my Colombian Mochila  – it’s hand made by the Wayuu Indian women on the border of Venezuela and Colombia, and it’s gorgeous and cool. But no, I bring the Chanel.

Is it the inner rebel in me? Am I making a politically motivated style statement? Something a long the lines of, ya know what? I like fashion, I even sometimes love designer bags – but I’m still a good human gosh darn it!  My love of fashion from Goodwill to Lanvin, doesn’t take away from my depth as a human…right?

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This cool mom has amazing tattoos, I am pretty sure she’s married to a tattoo artist. I do bet that all those tattoos are very expensive  – kind of like the price of a small Chanel bag? But somehow, it’s not looked at the same way. Style is my art..tattoos are body art.

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So “rad” as the surfers say..

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Love between a parent and a child is indescribable.

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Glowing & Haute in Ojai. (and my attempt at “hippie”)

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Sarah. Ojai, California. 2015.

A California mama in Ojai – relaxed, non-complicated, smiling…It’s all very California, even in the way Sarah is dressed – a floppy hat reminiscent of the 70’s, her shiny straight hair, striped fitted dress and an authentic smile… I’ll never look this easy breezy  – right?

There is a difference in style between LA, which is always on point, very sexy and laid back bohemian – but in places like Ojai and Joshua Tree, the style seems to be vintage, and the period 1970’s. I think it’s funny that when people visit Joshua Tree, they even pack like they are headed to a music festival or the original Woodstock.  I’ve attempted this look, but I always come out looking Miami.. like this:

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Shot of me by T. Palmer.

Fashion Notes: Boots: Miss Sixty, Skirt: Zara, Top: vintage & designed knitted by my mama, Bag: Dooney & Bourke 1980 Bucket Bag, Cocktail Ring: Vintage Paris, Earrings: Shandi Levy Jewelry

I’m going to New York City tomorrow, and I haven’t packed – but I know, my suitcase will be filled with much more cool looking and funkier clothing then I wear in California. When I’m in NYC, I pull out my real style and feel like I can get away with anything – it’s so fun. This week I think I may even wear my Adidas high tops all day – and leave the heels at home. CRAAAAAZZZZYYYY!!

Shots by Angela Izzo, www.izzoimages.com – photographer, artist, filmmaker. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/izzoimages/

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Raising the Next Generation of Dead Heads…

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Lisa. Fairfax, California. February 2016.

Lisa is a stylist at Milvali Salon in Mill Valley. Originally from Boston, Lisa and her family live in the bohemian town of Fairfax.

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Lisa and her husband are huge Grateful Dead fans, and they are making sure their offspring appreciate the love they have for the group.

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Mommy Love.

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Love the evil eye (I think) tattoo.

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More Mommy Love…

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Mara’s “Funny” Grateful Dead Observations.

I’m  so glad I got to experience the Grateful Dead once again. No, I’m not an official “dead head”, but watching the fans and experiencing such a peaceful crowd dancing completely  OFF BEAT & literally to the beat of their own drummer was quite a vision.  I’ve been meaning to write down my observations, and was reminded to follow through, here you go:

I share a nickname with “Mountain Girl”: I just found out that the house we are renting was formally occupied (Dead heads please take a seat) by Mr. Jerry Garcia and his Love, Mountain Girl..I feel weird referring to her as a girl, but I was corrected when I kept calling her “Mountain Woman”. I can’t help but wonder how Mountain Girl earned that moniker.  I had a nickname similar, only it was created by middle school boys after the mountains that developed on my chest.

So this entrance into Grateful Dead culture, reminded me to post my photos and observations regarding my experience attending a Grateful Dead Show in Santa Clara. I wrote something to be published soon, but here’s a little preview.

Unintentional high: It was hard to photograph people as I unintentionally became intoxicated – it was  a combination of what I’m pretty sure was a toxic level of Patchouli oil I was forced to inhale, in collaboration with a contact high due to the smoke cloud hovering over Levi’s stadium.  

Fashion Rules: Ya know the rule, that you can’t wear a t-shirt with the band your seeing to their concert? Well, that rule does not exist with Grateful Dead fans – you can even buy a t-shirt at the merchandise table and wear it over your old “vintage” Grateful Dead concert t-shirt.

Handbag Rules and Fashion Crimes against Women:  Levi’s stadium did everything they could, to make all fans unstylish. Can you imagine that you could only bring in a clutch (men, it’s a small bag without handles)? And no offense, but I imagine many female fans of the Dead don’t own clutches.  These rules were created by someone who has never attempted the feat of holding a clutch all night – while it is the most stylish handbag, it’s also the most useless.  What about a Fanny Pack people? Isn’t the Fanny Pack the “official” bag of The Grateful Dead and its fans? The “bag” they did allow..Clear plastic bags.. lower end then the ones you get at CVS.

On Wearing Shorts on Stage: At first, I was a little perplexed as to why Bob “Bobby” Weir wore shorts on stage. I meant this is a huge deal – 70,000 people filling Levi’s stadium, and he’s wearing cargo shorts. But I get it, it’s kind of charming. I find the “hippie” fashion preparation for all these musical festivals to be fun, but extremely contrived – I mean who the hell wears flower crowns in every day life paired with the perfect yoga body? I loved that not many fans thought about their looks, they just were having fun and enjoying the nostalgia.  As a fashion lover, I actually appreciated this piece of authenticity and didn’t even make snarky comments about the inordinate amount of tie dye.

Dead Heads Still Spin in Gypsy Skirts: I keep name dropping, here I go again.  My friend the multi-talented Neal Casal, who gathered an impressive ensemble (including Mark Levy (the Congress) on Drums & Adam MacDougall (Chris Robinson Brotherhood) on keyboard) of musicians to create the break music at the Dead shows.  Neal’s music was so good, the stadium remained filled during “intermission” (I know, it’s not the theater), and I got to witness first hand Dead Head spinning action. I tried to be a participant, but let’s face it –  I failed due to poor fashion planning (my leggings were so tight, I should’ve worn a cool hippie skirt). The crowd took in every moment, and you could see the joy in their faces, re-living such a huge part of their past.  Read more about Neal and the break music here:

http://www.billboard.com/articles/news/grateful-dead/6612951/grateful-dead-fare-thee-well-intermission-music

Children at the Shows: I was surprised to see children at the shows, selfishly it would seem hard to have fun with all that responsibility.  But now I get it – think about the backstory? Years from now these kids will be able to add to any story, “when I was at The Dead Shows in Santa Clara at 3, I decided music was my life” – Perfect quote for a Rolling Stone interview, right? I guess taking my kids to a Neil Diamond cover band as their first official concert doesn’t have the same cache.

Dreads: At Dead Shows you see a lot of dreads, usually they are so long, indicating a lifetime of commitment.

Members of the Tribe:  Did the Messiah finally come? At first, I was confused, did I enter some sort of hippie, Rosh Hashanah service? Because, I’m confident (with my 100% JEWDAR) that 90% of the crowd went to my sleep-a-way camp, teen tour or my semester in Israel – you all looked familiar. Let’s just say, I’ve never spotted so many Jews in Northern California.

Fashion Award: My favorite man look at the shows in Santa Clara was another member of Neal Casal’s music ensemble.  His gorgeous long dreads combined with low waisted, simple and slight bellbottoms, a cool hat and solid t-shirt worked.  Unfortunately for me, I stalked him from behind and shot his photo, not knowing my friend Angela would forward him the photo, and my stalking ways would be revealed. (he takes good care of those dreads, I can tell)

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Cute mom in a little music festival look.

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Neal Casal & the Talented Musicians behind the break music

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Tie Dye. Maxi dresses. Hair flowers. Vintage Dead Concert T-shirts. This was the “look”.

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Blurry photo, but check out the length of those dreads.

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Haute Drop-Off right here in Santa Clara.

 

Haute Mama on The Grateful Dead’s Baseball Field.

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Meggan. Fairfax, California. May 2015.

This field is where The Grateful Dead used to play baseball with other musicians, here in the bohemian county of Marin.

Meggan grew up in the bohemian town of Fairfax, located in Marin County. She was raised by two New Yorkers, and lived in NYC for a long time – before moving back to her California roots. I can see the mix of NYC and Northern California in Meggan’s style – she looks like she’s strolling a flea market on a Sunday in the East Village.

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Meggan is a pastry chef at Taste Kitchen and Table, http://www.tastekitchenandtable.com

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Well, I love a good old Dooney & Bourke 1980’s pocketbook, what wasn’t even hip in the 80’s, has enjoyed a resurgence for at least 5 years.  I purchased a great Dooney & Bourke bucket bag at an Aspen thrift store for $25.00 about three years ago – what a score!!

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Please excuse the garbage – kind of shocking that someone “littered”!!! A cropped cardigan is always a good staple in your wardrobe – especially in California climates.

Brooding Voice. Haute Musician Papa. Bohemian Drop-Off.

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Jeremy. Dad. Musician. Fairfax, California. January 2015.

If anyone could be a style poster child for Fairfax, a bohemian town in Marin County, California–Jeremy would be it. Jeremy has the soul of an artist, and now the soul of a daddy. Jeremy is a musician, playing guitar and singing in the band San Geronimo.  I first heard this band play at a bar, that to me, seemed like it had to be fake and on some movie set. But it wasn’t, this place called Rancho Nicasio is deep in Marin County, and feels like what my image of a 1960 rural hippie town would appear to be.  I even spotted an identical human replica of David Crosby.

Jeremy’s voice is brooding and captivating, but I’m not really a music critic.  What I do know, is that their version of Lyle Lovett’s If I had a Boat will touch you deeply..and make you fall in love with their sound. San Geronimo plays every Thursday at Terrapin Crossroads in San Rafael, owned by famed Grateful Dead bassist, Phil Lesh.  They’ve played at The Great American Music Hall in San Francisco, as well as many other Bay Area venues.  Click the link below, to check them out:

http://www.sangeronimomusic.com

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Papa’s Got a Brand New Dress. Haute Fairfax.

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Duncan. Nurse. Dad. Stilt Walker. Fairfax, California. June 2014.

I spent the day hanging at the Fairfax Festival in Marin County, California.  What seems like a typical town, is just so not.  I was waiting in line at the ATM, when two guys announce, “so guys, are you all waiting in line for Grateful Dead tickets..because if so, you really are going to need a miracle.” That made me laugh, and appreciate the continued hippie vibe so present in this funky little town of Fairfax, California.

To me, watching people is an art form..I may even say it’s my hobby..and the visions presented to me at the festival were amazing.  Costumes galore, cross dressing, semi-nudity, bohemian music festival style and real hippie style..all great to see.  And then I spotted Duncan…

This wasn’t my brother Seth’s quick walk around his LA neighborhood in a dress, this dad was serious.  He was dressed in full costume, the only thing off were his shoes.. but hey, it’s tough being a “full” woman in heels.  I am not sure why he didn’t wear heels, when the man walks on stilts as a hobby.  Now, the thing about Fairfax is no one bats an eyelash..it’s a town so engrained in self expression, it’s just not a big deal to see a cross dressing dad. I really love that.  I do think when Duncan’s daughter is older, she may ask her dad to wear something a little less old fashioned 🙂

This is my Father’s Day Fashion Shot!!!