Make-Up at the Gym..like a lot of it

Bela. Marin County. May 2017.

I love Bela, she’s so real and doesn’t hide who she is. Ask any woman if they wear make-up to the gym, most will lie. Here’s my mini-interview with Bela, mom, make-up artist & a whole lot more:

Mara: “In your opinion, what’s the most essential item of make-up you need?”

Bela: “So I can’t just pick one, I feel every girl needs concealer, a touch of blush, defined brows, a little bit of eyeliner (although I cake it on) mascara and powder. My favorite translucent powder is Beauty Counter’s loose powder, it’s great for oily skin.”

Mara: “I’m crying of laughter, this is make-up you would use on a film set, or on Broadway!  And this is your normal, every day routine -So What about BB cream, oils, stuff that you can wear to the gym?”

Bela: “Mara, I mean let me be clear, I do FULL face all day, everyday, gym, no-gym, school drop-off or no school drop-off, EVERYDAY”

Mara: “Can I quote you verbatim on Haute Drop-Off”

Bela: “Hell yea”

Bela and I volunteered together, our job was to put make-up on women in a charity fashion show. The women who sat in my chair, came out looking like they were on serious drugs or they lost in a street fight.  Obviously, I tried to convince them of my theory that, “black and blue makes the eyes appear 20 years younger”, horrified because my lie wasn’t sinking in, I gave Bela the ‘save me’ look, and so she did. Bela dove in and fixed my terrible make-up job.  From then on, I knew she had my back -and we became quick friends.

A row of lower back stars.. and how about this delicious kid? Bela grew up in Southern California, and visits her brother in West Hollywood frequently – apparently, he also is head to toe G-L-A-M-O-R-O-U-S.

Sexy shoulders.

Loooong legs..and this gorgeous child was so fun and delicious.

I love Bela’s pop of tattoos  – you don’t know she has them – and then they just appear

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Bela knows how to look good for the camera, and I think I should be her agent :).

Those low ankle boots are a 90’s throw back.. love them, flattering and make short cut-off’s look rock-n-roll…(do people still say that?)

When your mama has legs as long as a super model, you hold on to those things for support.

I always had friends much taller than me, it’s always a funny combination. It’s helpful to have tall friends for so many things, especially if you are trying to get the attention of a bartender. They ALWAYS see the tall people first, weird.

And as mothers, we can’t always pose for photographs – I mean, these kids want to do things, they want to climb  – I love how Bela’s holding her daughter’s faux fur jacket, so she can climb the play structure.

 

 

 

 

Matt’s so Rad. Pro-Skater. Hot Dad.

Pro-Skater Matt Field and his son. Mill Valley, California. May 2017.

I’ve known Matt for a few years now, he’s an incredible skater -he’s one of these people who’s totally aware of his physical presence. Matt is a skateboarder, a professional -so no matter what, like a rock star, Matt will always have cool props. An avid Yogi, Matt continues to test himself physically.

Let’s talk about Matt’s style;

I’ve never seen Matt not look stylin’ – never. And I’m not surprised that Matt designed a line of skater shoes – these maybe from that line. Matt’s arms are ripped (as the kids say), and that is all YOGA baby! (too bad I can’t even lift my own body weight)..meaning he looks amazing in tank tops. When I talk about style, it’s a creative outcome for me..not in a pretentious way – like Matt here, he just has style – he gets dressed quickly, but has an eye for what looks cool. He takes risks, and that’s what we all see.

When I photograph someone with an incredible fashion sense, it’s exciting – it’s like looking at art – only in human form.  Check out Matt’s look below;

If I wore that hat/bandana combo, I’d look like I was trying to fit in at a Carrie Underwood concert.

Red socks  -gold shoes sans laces…

 

Haute Philogynist..(google it)

Jenny. Mama. Feminist Activist. Fashion Designer. Marin Country Mart. May 2017

Jenny has two clothing lines.  Jenny Irene, a children’s line focused on a few simple designs (bonnets, tunics, playsuits, overalls), uses handmade and vintage textiles to create each piece. Her daughter’s adorable bonnet is by Jenny Irene, check out the designs here, www.jennyirene.com 

After the election, Jenny started making ‘smash the patriarchy’ tees for her family and friends. Inundated with requests, Boro Boro Shop was born – a line of t-shirts, totes and enamel pins all with feminist messages. WE all should be wearing them!! www.boroboroshop.com 

Jenny is comfortable in her own skin.. and confident in her style. She’s a beautiful woman who designs what she LOVES- this jumper rules!! I’d look like a house in it, but I have boobs the size of watermelons – so yea..

I love indigo, denim and anything resembling denim.. and so does Jenny. Check out that small red tattoo.. Style tip: if you feel like ya look “uncool” – put your hair in a high bun, I’m telling you – it adds this “I got mad style” vibe.. try it & thank me later.

Do you have a fondness, love or admiration toward women? Then I here by declare you a PHILOGYNIST. A re-usable bag from Jenny’s line. It makes me happy to know that women support other women – sexism is so engrained in society, it’s status quo  – it’s up to all of us to teach, point out and make a big F(ing) deal about misogyny, sexism and inequality facing ALL women.

All I know is when I have a dress with pockets, it’s really exciting – one because I can stick things in them, and two because it feels comfortable, I like having pockets for my hands – sometimes they need a little break.

High bun.

And I had to share this photo of these adorable and well dressed kids.

 

She’s Denim, She’s Acid Wash, She’s Perfect.

I’m officially having a love affair with a denim jacket. It sat in a Saks box for at least a week before I made the commitment. It wasn’t cheap, and if I see this Alice + Olivia Chloe jacket on sale, I will retaliate :).

I researched, I looked around, I scoured vintage stores for specific acid wash jackets – but I had to go fancy, and I had to pay retail. I even tried on a Marc Jacobs black worn-in denim jacket, and like all things Marc Jacobs – it looked terrible on my body type.  And I wanted to support my fellow Jewish brother, but it wasn’t made to fit the short, but curvy. Marc – -come on, remember your Jewish sisters and their body types!

And so, a brand I never was really into – seemed to get my attention, https://www.aliceandolivia.com  – the jacket, named “the Chloe embellished jacket” is now part of the Mara Menachem ridiculous jean jacket collection or coalition. I hear the 1960’s studded jacket is leading a revolt, apparently, I am not an equal opportunity wearer (not funny?).

That Stacey Bendet of Alice + Olivia is in a real creative flow – she has been making some seriously cool threads, and I’m watching.  Check out her bell bottoms, don’t know how they fit in the booty – but they look slamming on the mannequin.

The Chloe jacket (wish it had a different name, Chloe is just so obvious) has beaded pins in various places of things like lady bugs and butterflies. My issue: I’m such a repeater, so don’t make me feel bad for wearing it every day – because I will. And I will document it, so please be understanding.

Weird face here.. but Dries Van Noten made these John Lennon glasses. I love them, picked them up in LA at the Off Fifth outlet – always the best place to get designer glasses. Oh and I did just get my nails done – – a little black in Spring.

I wear my Ash moccasins unzipped  -it’s a new thing. Okay, fine – it’s not new, it’s because I get blisters – so I go unzipped. Calves made by genetics and Cycle Bar – they keep getting bigger.

This bag is one of a kind. I bought it at the Oakland vintage fair, it makes me look cooler, and I like to mix this 70’s bag with other decades, like the 80’s and 90’s. To me, when you dress in one period, it comes off as “I’m going to a costume party”.

I agree the dress is too short – that was more of a hemming mistake (i.e. scissors)..

Well, I was just having a good hair day – can’t a woman be proud of her locks?

 

LA Transplants are Haute. Fashion Designer Mama.

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Rachel. Mom. Fashion Designer. LA transplant. Marin County. April 2017.

For all things Rachel, http://artypea.tumblr.com

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Rachel talks about how she waited to have kids – and you can tell in conversation, that she appreciates being a mom. Like we’ve heard over and over, you can’t do it all..at once..and that’s something I truly believe. So many moms have little choice in the matter, and it’s the American way. To me, all moms should have a year off, paid, with a guarantee of job security. But this country makes moms do it all – at once, it’s impossible and unfair. And if we wait to have kids, biologically we’re penalized, medical intervention isn’t cheap and health insurance doesn’t cover fertility treatments.

It’s a subject so deep and disturbing, discussing the treatment of moms in general, gets me on a never-ending rant – as we all should be. We are set up to fail, and it’s the wealthy who have the opportunities to raise kids, without endless obstacles.

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On a lighter note, Rachel is taking her daughter to a puppet show, after a quick visit to the photo booth. Rachel is from LA, and is now moving to a very bohemian town in Sonoma  called Sebastopol. Sebastopol is known for its liberal politics, small town feel and famous residents with many musicians, writers and artists.

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I meet people everyday, who move from big cities to rural areas and revel in the tight communities and slower pace. I think for me, living in Marin is amazing – but I still can’t deal with not being able to find food after 9:30, or a bar that’s filled with lots of people who talk loud, and not because they are drunk, but because they are just loud talkers.  I do frequent Berkeley, San Francisco and Oakland to feel socially stimulated, if need be.

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Fashion Notes: Prada glasses, Ella Moss top, Jamie jeans, Dansko boots. Cute kid: Cat & Jack dress, Elephantito boots

 

 

Hilary Duff Wears Short Shorts, so do I..

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Are women just mean? Is it biological? Or are we conditioned from an early age to judge, criticize and mock other women? As a feminist, I feel terrible putting down my fellow sisters, but after reading the comments regarding Hilary’s drop-off “look”, I’m not happy with the state of our society, particularly females belittling each other.

For more of my thoughts:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mara-menachem/hilary-duff-wears-short-s_b_9852064.html

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Sock Action is Haute…

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Marin County. April 2015.

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This mom works at a very cool clothing store, Erica Tanov, http://www.ericatanov.com

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Love these matte ankle rain boots paired with socks up to the calf. I’m a huge fan of pairing socks with any type of shoe, I get made fun of for it – but I don’t care. My theory is if Parisian women are pulling it off – so can I.

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All black is always chic – but adding these socks makes this look funky and stylish. With summer coming soon, throw out your levi cut off’s with ankle socks and flats.. it’s a great way to take away from the sexiness of the short shorts. Here’s an example:

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Fashion Notes: Seven jeans cut by me, Chanel Flats, Black ankle socks, Bohemian bag from Barcelona, Top from Anthropologie, Glasses are Ray Ban in green, earrings from India

My Chanel flats were stolen in my luggage at JFK  – I miss them. You can wear them with anything and automatically it adds some chicness to an otherwise grungy outfit (which is usually my look). Just ask Alexa Chung, the hip British model and style icon. Alexa wears her Chanel flats with everything – and still manages to look edgy/Downtown and not Upper East Side.

Haute in Japan

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Japan. February 2016.

My friend Jan, who lives in Mexico City travels a great deal. She doesn’t let three kids stop her from experiencing new cultures and seeing the world. Jan also happens to be stylish and have an incredible eye. Here’s her view of Haute Drop-Off in Japan.

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Patagonia looks so cute on kids. Do you notice all the American brands? For some reason it looks so much cooler in Japan. It’s a sense of fashion, that you just don’t see in large quantities in other countries.

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How Not to Feel Unhip in LA.

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Los Angeles. November 2015.

I spent the week in Los Angeles for Thanksgiving. I love LA, it’s fashion eye candy, people  make an effort and usually are pretty darn attractive.  I grew up in an environment similar to LA, Miami. Miami is ridiculously sexy – sexy overrules style, and nothing is off limits. In LA, fashion is competitive – walk out the door and you’ll learn quickly what’s “in”.

When I was packing for my trip to LA, I thought about this. What should I bring? I even perused my favorite fashion blogs like The Sartorialist, www.thesartorialist.com, I mean no one wants to feel “unhip”in a vast sea of majorly hip, It only serves as a reminder of those awkward teenage years. And then I found this hysterical video of the brilliant Amy Schumer articulating my feelings, “I don’t fit in here.. Straight up body type”, she joked to Ellen about LA, …https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RgX2HY2iyVQ

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I ended up feeling great in LA, because obviously I have naturally cool style! Here’s an LA mama looking so fine. What a flattering dress. The fit is perfect – showing curves, but allowing comfort.

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This mom is using a Prada nylon skull bag as her diaper bag. Prada makes the best nylon bags, that can get dirty and be cleaned quickly with a baby wipe.

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Sexy hair..I love when hair looks natural and “undone”

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One of my favorite looks. I still get weird stares when I rock black ankle socks with heels or flats. But it’s so cool looking, and adds comfort. Parisians started this trend, probably with the desire to wear heels on those cobble stone streets.

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What is this the Met Gala? Haute in Boca.

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Rachel. Boca Raton, Florida. Fall 2015. Fashion Shots Lemore Zausner.

Growing up in Miami, we made the trek to Boca Raton quite often. My grandparents lived close by, like many of their friends, they migrated from Long Island to retire in warm weather.  Before they moved, my dad was transferred to Miami from the Manhattan office of Ernst & Young.  It was shocking to me, that only an hour north from Miami,  a place so opposite existed.  Boca was clean, Boca had great shopping, Boca had manicured lawns, Boca had lots of bagel shops.  Boca had women sporting 10-carot diamond rings shopping at Publix, using coupons at check out.  As a kid, I noticed the difference – “Mom, this place is filled with Jews and they really like to bedazzle (Boca completely missed 1990’s grunge)!”, my mom explained that Boca was very similar to many towns in Long Island. At the time, I was in too deep as a “fake hippie”, so Boca didn’t fit my “scene” and I suddenly appreciated moving to Miami from Long Island. (what? I didn’t know how to use a bedazzler.)

At the time, Boca seemed flashy, loud and pushy, but it also was filled with warmth and personality.  I consider it a rite of passage that I got knocked over by an 86 year-old woman at Loehmann’s over a Prada back pack.  And I’m convinced those numerous experiences watching my Grandmother Sylvia push her way up to the front of the deli line, with all the other “just as assertive” women taught me a thing or two.

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Since my childhood observations, Boca Raton has changed a lot, and I know some pretty cool people, who have made this city home. One of them is Rachel Silver-Cohen, founder of Silver Unpolished, http://silverunpolished.com which embodies all things Silver.

Rachel is bold, unafraid and brave. She is unapologetically “unpolished”.  Rachel doesn’t hold back, I admire that greatly – whether it’s in her writing or verbal banter. She is authentic and confident in her own skin (and when she’s not, she will tell you).  Her blog features  advice, funny stories, pop culture, fashion etc.. and her fans can’t get enough.

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Wanting to collaborate, we came up with Rachel rocking a gown at pick up (or drop off) as a fun way to mock Boca Raton stereotypes. Here, she’s playing the role of loving mother (aka queen) in head to toe diamonds, picking up her kids from the school bus stop.  Rachel, who’s obviously an expert accessorizer, is even donning a tiara!

The exaggerated way Rachel is running to hug her son, is a play on the stereotypical “Jewish mother”, treating her kids like they are the Messiah. In reality Rachel (and me included) at school pick up are usually half dressed, lucky to have showered! On most days Silver admits to barely making it out of her car (her mobile office).

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Silver happily played the role of Boca Raton Glamour Mama, and here are more amazing photos.

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Check out the peep toe heels and asymmetrical dress.

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Those diamonds and pearls look pretty heavy.

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I love that no one is reacting to Rachel’s over the top school pick-up look… I guess she could of been filming a new episode of “The Real Housewives”.

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Destroying stereotypes right here – even with her tiara and gown, Rachel is sitting on the pavement, not wasting time worrying about staining her dress. Boca Moms Rule!!

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My favorite photo – I guess it’s obvious, but love is every where – even if it comes with a little extra bling. Here’s to all the Haute Boca Mamas, keep doing your thing..