Haute Self-Confidence. If we believe, They’ll Believe.

Amber. Marin County. September 2017.

We’re just hanging at a pool party. Amber’s daughter is swimming in the pool. Mamma Amber looks good in everything  – it’s a dream really or a fantasy for me to look good in a dress like this. She looks so thin, even in a dress with no shape.

After I complimented Amber, we started talking about how as women, we constantly criticize ourselves. I’m so guilty of this. We talked about how it seems shallow, but in actuality it comes from a very deep place. I wish I could feel self confident all the time, and not be concerned with my exterior – whether I look thin, curvy, pretty, fit—it’s an internal struggle most females start confronting as young as 11. We discussed putting ourselves down and how it becomes a habit for many women.  Even if we know we’re bad ass..we want to humble ourselves to be more relatable – or maybe that’s just me?

When I was maybe 11, I had this close friend, who for some reason thought it was amusing to walk up to people at our camp and ask “who’s prettier, Mara or me?”.  I thought it was so weird, but was intimidated by her odd confidence because I stayed quiet. And she did it all the time that summer.

I hadn’t even thought that much about my looks back then, and her behavior caused naive me to realize that looks matter, and people rate and compare beauty.  At 11, I hardly showered, and now I had to be insecure about my exterior, when I was just happy being a kid. And after her constant beauty surveys, I wondered, is she prettier than me?  I used comedy to hide the fact that I was totally uncomfortable with her asking people who was prettier.  At a young age I was well versed in using self deprecation and comedy to avoid being the recipient of hurt.

Because she believed she was prettier and her own belief, although cocky  – made all of us believe HER truth. I guess self deprecation no matter how charming, how it makes everyone feel more comfortable, disarms them – may in reality make the person doing it, seem less than. I was a tough kid who used “fuck” and “asshole” in my regular conversations, but emotionally I didn’t have the guts to just tell that girl to take her pretty face and go “fuck herself”.

I’ve tried to be better about putting myself down – because it’s true, the more you say something, the more it’s your truth and the people around you start to also believe your words. It seems less fun, and inauthentic at times – – BUT I’m still funny gosh darn it.

I kinda am obsessed with indigo. It’s so comfy, cool and it’s that color I love so much. Indigo make EVERYTHING look insanely stylish – I’m picturing bags, belts, leggings, socks – -leg warmers !!!!

SO a lot of people, especially my Cali crew of DIY peeps are making indigo. I’m so ADD, I keep thinking about it, but following directions is a daunting process for me. I need someone to show me how in person, and elbow me when I get distracted. Here’s a blog, which does a great job of explaining how to make indigo fabric step by step, even I could do it..https://indiesew.com/blog/how-to-indigo-dye-fabric

Love the color of these sandals – maroon has been hot for a while now – I dig a maroon bag   -very early late 70’s, early 80’s. These sandals are by Beatrice Valenzuela, http://beatricevalenzuela.com from Erica Tanov, https://www.ericatanov.com/stores.html 

The Adidas slides craze has influenced high end designers to make “fancy” slides.

Erica Tanov is a beautiful store in Marin County and Berkeley with such a well curated collection of accessories and apparel.

chic..

Hair on funky point…

It’s a hot day in Marin County and this dress is perfect as a pool cover up or an option not to sweat profusely on a 90 degree California day.

A little Kabbalah red string… it goes a long way

Tortoise shell glasses and an authentic smile.

Berkeley Style at Drop-Off.

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Lacreasa. Berkeley. May 2015.

I was at a birthday party in Berkeley when I learned one of the dads is a professional photographer, Adam Moore, www.sugardigital.com, Adam does a lot of editing. So when my camera ran out of battery, I called my new photographer friend over and kind of demanded he take photos for Haute Drop-Off. And here they are – pretty cool setting, pretty cool subjects.

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I met Lacreasa at the Berkeley Playground. She just got back from Jamaica and enjoys learning about Rastafarianism,  She’s also a mechanic, which is pretty darn cool. I wish I had the patience to fix things, but I’m pretty sure it would be fun to learn how to work on cars – -and it’s pretty stylish looking.

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SO I worship long nails, especially on a mechanic!! Lacreasa was helping build and paint with her kids..she is not afraid to dive in. That’s the key to long nails, you can’t let them stop you from everyday activities. For me, I had a lot of issues with minor activities like putting a credit card in a parking meter. That’s why I’m back to sporting my boring, short nails.

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It’s all about the backpack now..especially ones made in other countries, that are specific to different cultures…love this one.

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You know, I’m such a mixer – my long nails mixed with my huge earrings and boho style – this is exactly what this mom is pulling off – – -we’re all multi-faceted – it’s so much more fun.

Berkeley Style is Haute. No Birkenstocks at Drop-Off.

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Ada. Adventure Playground. Berkeley, California. March 2014.

Ada is working the bright colors on a beautiful day in the Bay Area.  For those of you who think Berkeley parents only wear Birkenstocks and long skirts, you are so mistaken…Berkeley is as diverse in its style as it is its people.  The photo of Ada was taken at Berkeley’s Adventure Playground.

Adventure Playground in Berkeley is the perfect spot for your little Huck Finns who want to learn how to work a hammer and saw.  It’s also a great place for me to hide in a corner reading Vogue, while my boys harass other helpful parents who actually possess the skills to teach them how to hammer a nail. Adventure Playground is proof that kids have more fun without manufactured toys and technology.  This “playground” resembles a shanty town — or an urban artsy area on the verge of gentrification.  The rules for the playground are very clear and kids do not receive hammers, nails, wood, or saws until they pick up pieces of trash left on the ground.  Additionally, they are allowed to climb on all the surfaces and slide across the park on a rope, which usually ends with a crash landing… a really amusing thing to watch.