From Tribe to Mickey Mouse.. Music.Kids.Syle.

Sharon and Grace. Greenwich, Connecticut. September 2017.

Sharon has always been a lover of fashion, she had her own label and currently works for famed fashion figure Steven Alan, most known for curating other designers as well as developing his own line. (Good sample sales too)

Sharon was always into counter culture and heavily influenced by music. Even when she dressed “punk like”, it was always in an understated way. Sharon managed to look almost tailored in her combat boots and goth like black hair.

“So what’s the music rotation these days?”, I ask Sharon.. “St Vincent, Lana Del Rey and Tribe Called Quest. They Might be Giants & the Mickey Mouse Clubhouse are high on Grace’s rotation.”  Funny how They Might be Giants are now more known for making kids music…So when ya have kids, it’s a good balance – let them be kids, and also expose them like a good cult leader to music you love – – one day, they’ll be like “I love this song, I love Beyonce..”..and only you’ll know why 🙂

Fashion Notes: SVILU dress https://svilu.com, Chanel sunglasses and sandals www.chanel.com. Grace is wearing Stella McCartney Kids & Mini Melissa shoes.

Haute Self-Confidence. If we believe, They’ll Believe.

Amber. Marin County. September 2017.

We’re just hanging at a pool party. Amber’s daughter is swimming in the pool. Mamma Amber looks good in everything  – it’s a dream really or a fantasy for me to look good in a dress like this. She looks so thin, even in a dress with no shape.

After I complimented Amber, we started talking about how as women, we constantly criticize ourselves. I’m so guilty of this. We talked about how it seems shallow, but in actuality it comes from a very deep place. I wish I could feel self confident all the time, and not be concerned with my exterior – whether I look thin, curvy, pretty, fit—it’s an internal struggle most females start confronting as young as 11. We discussed putting ourselves down and how it becomes a habit for many women.  Even if we know we’re bad ass..we want to humble ourselves to be more relatable – or maybe that’s just me?

When I was maybe 11, I had this close friend, who for some reason thought it was amusing to walk up to people at our camp and ask “who’s prettier, Mara or me?”.  I thought it was so weird, but was intimidated by her odd confidence because I stayed quiet. And she did it all the time that summer.

I hadn’t even thought that much about my looks back then, and her behavior caused naive me to realize that looks matter, and people rate and compare beauty.  At 11, I hardly showered, and now I had to be insecure about my exterior, when I was just happy being a kid. And after her constant beauty surveys, I wondered, is she prettier than me?  I used comedy to hide the fact that I was totally uncomfortable with her asking people who was prettier.  At a young age I was well versed in using self deprecation and comedy to avoid being the recipient of hurt.

Because she believed she was prettier and her own belief, although cocky  – made all of us believe HER truth. I guess self deprecation no matter how charming, how it makes everyone feel more comfortable, disarms them – may in reality make the person doing it, seem less than. I was a tough kid who used “fuck” and “asshole” in my regular conversations, but emotionally I didn’t have the guts to just tell that girl to take her pretty face and go “fuck herself”.

I’ve tried to be better about putting myself down – because it’s true, the more you say something, the more it’s your truth and the people around you start to also believe your words. It seems less fun, and inauthentic at times – – BUT I’m still funny gosh darn it.

I kinda am obsessed with indigo. It’s so comfy, cool and it’s that color I love so much. Indigo make EVERYTHING look insanely stylish – I’m picturing bags, belts, leggings, socks – -leg warmers !!!!

SO a lot of people, especially my Cali crew of DIY peeps are making indigo. I’m so ADD, I keep thinking about it, but following directions is a daunting process for me. I need someone to show me how in person, and elbow me when I get distracted. Here’s a blog, which does a great job of explaining how to make indigo fabric step by step, even I could do it..https://indiesew.com/blog/how-to-indigo-dye-fabric

Love the color of these sandals – maroon has been hot for a while now – I dig a maroon bag   -very early late 70’s, early 80’s. These sandals are by Beatrice Valenzuela, http://beatricevalenzuela.com from Erica Tanov, https://www.ericatanov.com/stores.html 

The Adidas slides craze has influenced high end designers to make “fancy” slides.

Erica Tanov is a beautiful store in Marin County and Berkeley with such a well curated collection of accessories and apparel.

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Hair on funky point…

It’s a hot day in Marin County and this dress is perfect as a pool cover up or an option not to sweat profusely on a 90 degree California day.

A little Kabbalah red string… it goes a long way

Tortoise shell glasses and an authentic smile.

Bet Her Hair Doesn’t get Frizzy. She’s HAUTE.

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Makelle. Marin County, California. Mom. Therapist. April 2017.

It’s Spring time, and parents are outside. Makelle was taking her daughter to a puppet show, outside in the perfect LA ‘like’ weather. We both chatted about feeling like it’s hard to accomplish much in a day, especially with little kids – showering is an accomplishment.

Personally, I’ve been having a hard time getting dressed, I think I forgot how to look stylish when it’s hot… the vision of my pale legs, scared me out of wearing cutoff’s. When I finally got my confidence back, one of my kids asked me to please not wear “those shorts” as they are “so embarrassing”.  Because I’m so psychologically healthy (ha), I needed to know why the embarrassment, Is it because I look bad in them? Or good? After a brief interrogation, I was left with zero information regarding the mystery of why my cutoffs embarrass this kid.

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This denim jumper looks incredible on Makelle- I hope she realizes how good she looks in this – DAMN!!!

Makelle has a look I could never relate to at all – she’s tiny, blonde and her hair never frizzes.  She can show her bra, without looking Va Va Voom- like some people I know (me).

She can probably pull off a Free People loose sun dress, ya know the ones that are so confusing to try on? You can’t figure out how your nipples won’t show and/or how anyone can wear this fabric tied together with string, without some fat sticking out…I’ll bet that Makelle is one of the few who can rock that look.

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Makelle even has stylin’ tattoos, when I think of a triangle, I think of many interpretations of this symbol – from Gay rights to the Holocaust to femininity.  I love the way this simple ink looks on her arm, it’s like having a permanent accessory, and you always look a little hip, ya know?

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Look at the glowing skin – and the LOVE of a mama.

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A little Beatles action  – Ray Ban shades, love this shape.

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Haute Pantsuit Nation at Drop-Off

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Marin County. November 8, 2016. Election Day.

This morning at Drop-Off, a bunch of mamas met and planned to wear pant suits, to be a part of the group #pantsuitnation – where women around the country are wearing pant suits in honor of Hillary Clinton – sisterhood and Feminism, what’s so funny is no one has pants suit anymore. One mom wore her late Republican grandmother’s blazer from Lord & Taylor – we all thought that was pretty ironic, a store with a stereotype in the past of serving a very conservative upper-middle class WASPY population.

It was my idea to just wear yoga pants in combination with blazers, mostly because selfishly I wanted to do yoga after our pant suit power rally. I do think it’s fashionably interesting that none of us wear anything that resembles suits at all anymore – we’re feminists in dresses!!

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Leslie, a powerhouse executive at HBO wore this version of a suit to show her support of Hillary – she’s showing her gorgeous daughter the importance of making your voice count.

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Check out all these women in Pant Suits at school drop-off this morning.  We are showing our kids, through example, how to be a part of the decision making in this country – our votes mean something. The bonding this election has created is more significant than the separation – I’m so proud of women in this country for supporting one another and making sure all of our voices are heard.

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This mama got all of us to meet at drop-off this morning in our pant suits..love her version of this old school look.

 

$600 Distressed High Tops? Cali Style Ain’t Cheap..

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Natalie. Marin County, California. October 2016.

Natalie is the owner of LOOKING GLASS, Luxe Clothing & Shoes in Sonoma County. Sonoma is the Northern California town, famed for its wine. Sonoma not only has visitors from all around the world, but many East Coasters, and LA peeps, have second homes, wineries and have even transplanted year round to this gorgeous town.

So it’s no surprise that Natalie’s store is filled with high design pieces for Sonoma’s stylish crew of women. Check her out @lookingglass707

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How LA do they look? So cute!

 

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Fashion Notes: Mother high waisted jeans, Golden Goose sneakers, Bella Lux top, Rag & Bone suede hat, Aviator Nation tote, Pamela Love spike rings, Rolex watch.

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Hebrew tattoo by Buddha’s Palm Tattoo in Sebastopol, a bohemian town in Northern California. I’m pretty sure the first time I spotted a Hebrew tattoo, I was amazed – I thought  that tattoos were forbidden in Judaism – something about desecrating your body, which is merely a shell – your soul belongs to you. This is at least my interpretation. As if Jews don’t have enough guilt, we grew up thinking if you got a tattoo you wouldn’t be allowed to be buried in a Jewish cemetery – I think it must have something to do with the Holocaust, and de-humanizing Jews by tattooing their arms with numbers identifying them in the concentration camps.

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..a monogrammed letter N.

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Small words wrapped around Natalie’s wrist.

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When I spotted Natalie’s Golden Goose sneakers, I knew she was invested in fashion. These sneakers are not cheap, and part of their appeal to the fashion set is the intentional distressed look – it’s like your brother’s hand me down high tops, which take months to break in. Prices start around $500, and can be found at Barney’s NYC.

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The tote bag trend started with Americans finally bringing re-usable bags to the grocery store. Since then, tote bags have gone designer..and I always say tote bags are the new status symbol. I use a few my mom gets from The Aspen Institute – I feel so intellectual and sophisticated when walking through my local store  – if they only knew the truth – my tote bags are hand me downs!

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She’s Lookin’ Poncho Perfect…

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Carrie. 66th and Broadway. NYC. Summer 2016.

Carrie is wearing a poncho by Australian design house Ella Sanders, http://www.ellasanders.com.au. Danielle Sanders, founder of Ella Sanders comes from a long line of established wool farmers and was raised by an avid knitter.  Her passion for high quality fabrics and classic design led to the creation of this Australian design house.  Lucky for us, Ella Sanders will be making its stateside debut very soon.

My mother buys high quality knits from high end wool to cashmere and she wears them for years. I still wear my grandmother’s cashmere sweater from the 70’s and my mom’s wool sweaters from the 80’s. They’ve stood the test of time, and that’s what you get when you buy high quality fabrics. Also, wool breathes – that’s why it’s a fabric you can even wear in the summer!! My first official job in fashion was at The Woolmark Company, whose role was to market wool to the fashion industry. Contrary to what you may think, it was ultra glamorous and gave me access to all the major fashion magazines   – and amazing parties!

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My sister-in-law looking dope with my delicious niece. She has taken this poncho and made it bohemian funky with her ankle boots and floppy hat.

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Megan makes Drop-Off so Fly…

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Megan. Marin County. May 2016.

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Megan is a repeat Haute Drop mama. Always looking fly this one….When I run into Megan, she knows that I’m going to beg her to let me take some shots. She always looks good, without that “I tried to look good” look.

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Megan knows how to wear animal print ankle boots, without looking cheesy. Not everyone has that gift – paired with solid leggings, and casual bohemian accessories  – and it works so well.

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The striped scarf and leather bag add dimension & cool details.

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Sexy Legs at Drop-Off. Mini-Dress in Marin.

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Lisa. Psychologist. Dancer. Fashion Lover. Marin County, California. May 2015.

Love the combination of an open toe Jil Sander ankle boot/heel with a min-dress and cropped jean jacket. Funny, because this was my Miami look, when I lived there. And slowly as I’ve been living in Marin, I’ve moved away from my short dresses.

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Lisa dances several times a week..those legs!

Fashion Notes: Bag: Goyard, Aviators: Ray Ban, Heels: Jil Sander, Dress: Mara Hoffman, Jean Jacket: Saint Laurent

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Watch: Cartier, Bracelet: Gump’s San Francisco

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well, I think I may take up dancing. Lisa was raised on the East Coast, and loves clothing..she is definitely a mixer, but likes specific designers.

Eyelashes. Eyebrows. Make-Up. Beauty in Winter is Haute.

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April. Marin County. January 2015

Fashion Notes: Boots: Hunter, Puffy Jacket: Add Down

When I see April at school, I like to sing her that Sesame Street song, “one of these things is not like the other”.  She usually gives me a look, but April is so chic and always looks polished, unlike me.  Sometimes I think, if I have to get out of the car due to police interference, I may just refuse – this is what manifests from being late and barely having time to give your kid’s breakfast.  And Neal and Liam are so quick to judge their mama, calling me “girly”, a horrible stereotype, when I put blush and mascara on…. This is where April has saved me.

April owns Dollface Beauty in San Anselmo, California. Dollface does it all…they know me so well there, I’ve been pretty much taken hostage, because according to these beauty experts, my unruly eyebrows were in need of major clean up..I obliged and they look great.

Dollface also provides the most addictive beauty accessory out there….Eyelash extensions.  Yup, these bad boys will cut your “primping” time in half – -they are majorly addictive – because who doesn’t want to look like Cher in the late 1960’s?

The other option, to which Jennifer Aniston is a fan, is making your eyelashes darker…if you have light hair, this will make your eyes look enormous.  Sometimes, when i’m feeling PMSie..I roll into Dollface and someone always makes me feel better – whether it’s a wax, make-up, eyelashes…and when I start getting invited to all the chic parties in San Francisco (hint, hint), Dollface Beauty will make sure I look slammin’.

http://dollfacemarin.com

 

Mara Menachem, The Bill Cunningham of Parent Fashion

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Well Guys, I’m pretty excited because this really authentic, cool and stylish Miami mama is giving me mad props (I know people don’t say that anymore, I’m bringing it back).  Annhy is like many of my “sisters” who are proud of me, and show me off – usually it involves some weird dorky dance move.  But Annhy who hardly knows me, has taken how embarrassingly describe Haute Drop-Off – usually in a low voice, to not get heels hurled in my direction, and vocalized it loudly.  And I love her for that. We should all, including me, stop being so afraid of exaggerating our skills….Gosh Darn it, I am the Bill Cunningham for Parent Style, and soon enough, The New York Times will add me to their fashion section and my mother will be able to properly show me off.

So Annhy started a great blog, I mostly love it because she’s so honest and funny, and she’s a looker – which always helps. So enjoy this piece about your very own Mara, and read about why I feel guilty at Guilt Free Mom Moments, http://fomib.com/2015/01/23/hooray-haute-drop-off/