Make-Up at the Gym..like a lot of it

Bela. Marin County. May 2017.

I love Bela, she’s so real and doesn’t hide who she is. Ask any woman if they wear make-up to the gym, most will lie. Here’s my mini-interview with Bela, mom, make-up artist & a whole lot more:

Mara: “In your opinion, what’s the most essential item of make-up you need?”

Bela: “So I can’t just pick one, I feel every girl needs concealer, a touch of blush, defined brows, a little bit of eyeliner (although I cake it on) mascara and powder. My favorite translucent powder is Beauty Counter’s loose powder, it’s great for oily skin.”

Mara: “I’m crying of laughter, this is make-up you would use on a film set, or on Broadway!  And this is your normal, every day routine -So What about BB cream, oils, stuff that you can wear to the gym?”

Bela: “Mara, I mean let me be clear, I do FULL face all day, everyday, gym, no-gym, school drop-off or no school drop-off, EVERYDAY”

Mara: “Can I quote you verbatim on Haute Drop-Off”

Bela: “Hell yea”

Bela and I volunteered together, our job was to put make-up on women in a charity fashion show. The women who sat in my chair, came out looking like they were on serious drugs or they lost in a street fight.  Obviously, I tried to convince them of my theory that, “black and blue makes the eyes appear 20 years younger”, horrified because my lie wasn’t sinking in, I gave Bela the ‘save me’ look, and so she did. Bela dove in and fixed my terrible make-up job.  From then on, I knew she had my back -and we became quick friends.

A row of lower back stars.. and how about this delicious kid? Bela grew up in Southern California, and visits her brother in West Hollywood frequently – apparently, he also is head to toe G-L-A-M-O-R-O-U-S.

Sexy shoulders.

Loooong legs..and this gorgeous child was so fun and delicious.

I love Bela’s pop of tattoos  – you don’t know she has them – and then they just appear

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Bela knows how to look good for the camera, and I think I should be her agent :).

Those low ankle boots are a 90’s throw back.. love them, flattering and make short cut-off’s look rock-n-roll…(do people still say that?)

When your mama has legs as long as a super model, you hold on to those things for support.

I always had friends much taller than me, it’s always a funny combination. It’s helpful to have tall friends for so many things, especially if you are trying to get the attention of a bartender. They ALWAYS see the tall people first, weird.

And as mothers, we can’t always pose for photographs – I mean, these kids want to do things, they want to climb  – I love how Bela’s holding her daughter’s faux fur jacket, so she can climb the play structure.

 

 

 

 

Haute Philogynist..(google it)

Jenny. Mama. Feminist Activist. Fashion Designer. Marin Country Mart. May 2017

Jenny has two clothing lines.  Jenny Irene, a children’s line focused on a few simple designs (bonnets, tunics, playsuits, overalls), uses handmade and vintage textiles to create each piece. Her daughter’s adorable bonnet is by Jenny Irene, check out the designs here, www.jennyirene.com 

After the election, Jenny started making ‘smash the patriarchy’ tees for her family and friends. Inundated with requests, Boro Boro Shop was born – a line of t-shirts, totes and enamel pins all with feminist messages. WE all should be wearing them!! www.boroboroshop.com 

Jenny is comfortable in her own skin.. and confident in her style. She’s a beautiful woman who designs what she LOVES- this jumper rules!! I’d look like a house in it, but I have boobs the size of watermelons – so yea..

I love indigo, denim and anything resembling denim.. and so does Jenny. Check out that small red tattoo.. Style tip: if you feel like ya look “uncool” – put your hair in a high bun, I’m telling you – it adds this “I got mad style” vibe.. try it & thank me later.

Do you have a fondness, love or admiration toward women? Then I here by declare you a PHILOGYNIST. A re-usable bag from Jenny’s line. It makes me happy to know that women support other women – sexism is so engrained in society, it’s status quo  – it’s up to all of us to teach, point out and make a big F(ing) deal about misogyny, sexism and inequality facing ALL women.

All I know is when I have a dress with pockets, it’s really exciting – one because I can stick things in them, and two because it feels comfortable, I like having pockets for my hands – sometimes they need a little break.

High bun.

And I had to share this photo of these adorable and well dressed kids.

 

She’s Denim, She’s Acid Wash, She’s Perfect.

I’m officially having a love affair with a denim jacket. It sat in a Saks box for at least a week before I made the commitment. It wasn’t cheap, and if I see this Alice + Olivia Chloe jacket on sale, I will retaliate :).

I researched, I looked around, I scoured vintage stores for specific acid wash jackets – but I had to go fancy, and I had to pay retail. I even tried on a Marc Jacobs black worn-in denim jacket, and like all things Marc Jacobs – it looked terrible on my body type.  And I wanted to support my fellow Jewish brother, but it wasn’t made to fit the short, but curvy. Marc – -come on, remember your Jewish sisters and their body types!

And so, a brand I never was really into – seemed to get my attention, https://www.aliceandolivia.com  – the jacket, named “the Chloe embellished jacket” is now part of the Mara Menachem ridiculous jean jacket collection or coalition. I hear the 1960’s studded jacket is leading a revolt, apparently, I am not an equal opportunity wearer (not funny?).

That Stacey Bendet of Alice + Olivia is in a real creative flow – she has been making some seriously cool threads, and I’m watching.  Check out her bell bottoms, don’t know how they fit in the booty – but they look slamming on the mannequin.

The Chloe jacket (wish it had a different name, Chloe is just so obvious) has beaded pins in various places of things like lady bugs and butterflies. My issue: I’m such a repeater, so don’t make me feel bad for wearing it every day – because I will. And I will document it, so please be understanding.

Weird face here.. but Dries Van Noten made these John Lennon glasses. I love them, picked them up in LA at the Off Fifth outlet – always the best place to get designer glasses. Oh and I did just get my nails done – – a little black in Spring.

I wear my Ash moccasins unzipped  -it’s a new thing. Okay, fine – it’s not new, it’s because I get blisters – so I go unzipped. Calves made by genetics and Cycle Bar – they keep getting bigger.

This bag is one of a kind. I bought it at the Oakland vintage fair, it makes me look cooler, and I like to mix this 70’s bag with other decades, like the 80’s and 90’s. To me, when you dress in one period, it comes off as “I’m going to a costume party”.

I agree the dress is too short – that was more of a hemming mistake (i.e. scissors)..

Well, I was just having a good hair day – can’t a woman be proud of her locks?

 

I Keep on Truckin’ in Door Knockers & Chanel

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April 2017. Somewhere in California…..Keep on Truckin’

Love the patches, especially since I now live in Grateful Dead country, and that’s an original patch – little did anyone know, it would be worn with stilettos and a large classic Chanel bag.

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This 70’s jean jacket was hiding in between two vintage hawaiian shirts at the vintage flea market in Oakland. You would think I won the lottery, I was so excited – – -and for $70.00, it was mine. Oversized, original patches, perfect color and rips in all the right places – I landed on vintage denim perfection. Sunglass are from Madewell, www.madewell.com

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These amazing door knockers are personalized with my name – from Melody Ehsani, https://melodyehsani.com and my chandelier earrings are from Neiman Marcus by Oscar de la Renta

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My heels are from the Off Fifth, the Saks Fifth Avenue outlet store – they were maybe $20. The sun dress was also a random and very inexpensive find. Most people, would say it’s really a top!! The bag, Chanel – not inexpensive, but I like to think of it as an “investment” piece, investment in my style 🙂

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The oversized jean jacket, makes a mini-dress seem more comfortable. I can wear it open or hide behind the bagginess.

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Seeeeee I can hide under this huge jacket!

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Photos: T. Palmer, Styling: Me..

 

 

 

 

Women’s March Oakland. Haute Drop-Off.

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I had to take a selfie before taking off to Oakland. If you know me well, you have free reign to poke fun; It seems like I’m attempting to morph into a contrived character out of a Free People catalog, I can see them advertising ‘free spirit protest clothing on sale after January 22′. And what my look says most likely is, “hey, I’m going to a protest, so let me draw a piece sign on my stomach, and wear something bohemian, but still stylish” I get it guys, and I admit it.  BUT when am I ever going to get a chance to draw a peace sign on my stomach and not get punched for it?

The issue is peace signs are so contrived, even if I still love them.  But there is a new symbol taking over, the VULVA. The vulva was the official symbol of the Women’s March. Women dressed as Vulvas, drew them and wore clothing with vulvas as the main theme. I am not great at drawing, so a last minute vulva sketch on my stomach was an impossible task – but know that I will be prepared at the next march.

FASHION NOTES: Plaid top: Zara, Denim, distressed tank: Intermix, Jeans: MOTHER, Moccasins: Minnetonka, Socks: Urban Outfitters

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I ran to CVS in a creepy area near my house, I kept thinking how I’m buying posters to protest for Women’s rights, and I’m nervous that a man is going to attack me in the dark, desolate parking lot. I also thought it very sorority like to buy poster board and sharpees at CVS, it’s good I have terrible handwriting, which always makes me seem legit!!  IMG_0779

My friends Willa and Eric, who happen to be with my family when Trump was elected. We were all horrified, and figured we should march together.

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This is en route to the Oakland march, tons of Police cars and traffic. My friend Eric brought a gorgeous Leica film camera to document the march, he didn’t want to waste any photos on us – – -bastard!!

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This march was filled with mothers and kids, families  – as a mother, I know how hard it is to stand/walk in a crowded place with kids for hours – this is so important for younger generations to participate and witness.

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My favorite sign, it had such a fashion angle. The signs were exceptional.

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Here I am, holding my sign high and proud – I make so many jokes, but the reality is serious here. I’ve struggled as a woman, like all of us  – but my basic rights have not personally been threatened. I thank the generations of women before me who stood up for equality  -we’re still not there yet – and the President elect has threatened our basic rights, and I’m not going to stand still and be silent. This is not a political issue – this is a human issue. Proud to stand with so many vocal Americans, who refuse to be muted. May we continue to be vocal, fight back and refuse to accept mistreatment, lack of human rights and inequality for all people.

Top Holiday Toys via eBay/Huffpost

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eBay.com & Thehuffingtonpost.com asked for my top kid gift this holiday season, I sound like a total capitalist, to which I’m not – but most of all, I feel like a true success when I watch my boys play a board game – they focus, read directions and have fun without technology – it’s so validating. I know you moms get it, and dads!!

“Haute Drop-Off blogger Mara Menachem plans to prepare her kids for the business world with the assistance of a classic board game.” Click on the link to read about my holiday toy pick, and other top mom bloggers…

http://www.huffingtonpost.com.au/entry/8-bloggers-reveal-the-holiday-seasons-trendiest-toys-to-thrill-your-kids_us_582621e2e4b02d21bbc89bf4

Haute Denim Dad.

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Ryan. Sausalito. December 2016.

Cute dad eating at FISH in Sausalito, 331fish.com, one of my favorite Bay Area lunch spots – bring lots of cash, that’s all they take – and it’s a little pricey or seems pricey when you actually pay with cash – because who uses cash anymore? But it’s delicious, sustainable fish, the highest quality and care go into their food – not to sound pretentious, but you can taste the love and care in each bite.

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Scenes from a “seafood” restaurant…

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Love this kids very British paddington bear sweater.

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Great shoes – so much better than weird sneakers – you guys know what I mean.

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This dad’s look is very simple, but still so stylish – especially the shoes. The jeans are also a perfect shade of denim, and I get weirdly excited when I see a perfect shade of denim. It would be a dream to spend a day in the Levi’s vintage warehouse… someone get me in there!!

It’s all about ME..HAUTE

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Me. Fall 2016. Marin County, California.

This necklace is from Laura Kimpton, her large instillations may be found at Burning Man, and she has a retail store in the bohemian town of Fairfax, California. Louis Vuitton is also making gold initial necklaces, $480 each. See below from In Style Magazine, 

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“Gold-finished” meaning not real gold

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I can’t remember where I bought this shearling jacket, but it was used and I knew it was a seriously amazing find. My psychic style powers told me that shearling was going to be huge again – and I was right. I love this jacket, but it’s a little bulky and boxy. Shearling can have a luxury, designer look, a downtown NYC look, a mountain, preppy LL.Bean look or even a bohemian 70’s look..depending on the jacket and how you style it.

Seen here on me is my 90’s style – reminds me of Mary J. Blige and the street style of Jennifer Lopez, and Hip-Hop artists in NYC during that period. I took an American Apparel strapless one piece, and cut it  – it’s a little crooked (I never cut in a straight line).

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Cheap sunglasses, $10 on Haight-Ashbury..

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My enormous Louis Vuitton Speedy bag, which is really sold as luggage. I bought these Timberlands at Century 21 in NYC…

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Does this braid make me look a little bohemian?

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Paige Denim, love these jeans – not sure if I love the way my butt looks..but they are comfortable and not skin tight.

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My dorkiest face – only adding to this look!!

 

Haute Temporary Butt Implants…

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I decided to be a Kardashian for Halloween.  We all know, it was just an excuse for me to stuff pull ups in my jeans, and finally get to exist in society with an impressive backside. I promise you I’m deep and soulful, but I have many sides, and one includes me clicking on a You Tube video explaining how to achieve a larger butt by utilizing pull ups.

Pull Ups, as you know are used as night time diapers for kids  – they aren’t cheap, I remember. But lucky for me, my friend Amy kindly lent me some – organic even! The first night I wore them, they worked – it was very hard to use the bathroom and re-stuff my self in a small bathroom at a party – I did look very lumpy by the middle of the night. I suggest you use tight, but stretchy jeans.

At the Halloween Party, people were staring at me – especially females – I knew they were wondering if I had implants, but they also know that Marin County is not Miami. It was pretty clear, after a few bathroom visits, and not placing the pull ups correctly that I was smuggling something in my jeans, and it didn’t look pretty.

Here’s the link to the video, https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=uXcqw0Gjq4E

Get my Look above: 6 pull ups, Zara heels, Gap Skinny jeans, H&M bomber jacket, gold hoops, Chanel bag, braids and lots of eyeliner.

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My little Axl Rose, Liam wanted a Slash side kick, but not many 10 year old kids want to dress up like Slash.

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I had to switch to high top Adidas, and my enormous Louis Vuitton Speedy bag to carry my camera and candy (I like candy) when we went trick-or-treating.  Look at my butt profile – impressive, huh?

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Liam is the only member of my family who will pose with me for my blog, or any social media.. Please say the kid continues to help his mama out 🙂

But all in all, after much serious research, It’s conclusive, blondes don’t have more fun, but those who stuff their jeans with Pull Ups, actually have the most fun….

REI saved my Chanel Bag, & more Deep Thoughts….

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Napa County. California. October 2016. Soccer Tournament.

When we first moved to Marin County three years ago, my son joined a traveling soccer team. I showed up to practices in my “Miami Glam” look, and learned quickly that the weather at games and practices require practical dressing. Being practical has never been my “thing”, but the other soccer moms openly accepted me, and continually (three years later) take care of me, in all weather conditions. But besides that, we’ve developed  friendships and bonds while watching our kids play.

I don’t like to show off about kids, but these amazing parents are always telling me positive things about my kid’s soccer skills, I always say I can’t reciprocate, because I have no idea what to even say, it’s the other soccer moms who point out when Neal does some amazing move – and I later tell him things like “Neal, awesome hat trick” – to which, he says “yea mom, and describe what that is?”

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Here I am today, watching the game in the pouring rain.  Shannon, my friend who is organized and efficient – she’s married to a rock star photographer and spent her life being the practical one, in a world of artists. So Shannon runs back to her car, and provides all of us with some shelter from the rain.

Because she rules, Shannon grabs my Chanel bag, and holds it on her lap. It’s being protected by rain equipment from REI.  Because of this, I would like to I formally thank REI and its outdoor material engineers for creating products that protect designer handbags. I’m sure that’s what the material designers had in mind when creating REI’s outdoor equipment. No matter, they did a great job.

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Shannon and my Chanel Bag..

My point in all this writing – is that as the Jewish New Year, Rosh Hashanah approaches, I’m reflecting more than my usual neurotic self. I feel so grateful, for the little things – like watching my kid play soccer, and feeling the pouring rain on my body. I’m amazed at how accepting humanity can be…in my hippie home of Marin County, my soccer mom friends find something shallow like protecting my Chanel bag in the rain, funny and don’t judge.

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We all enjoyed life this morning, we laughed, smiled and watched our kids kick a ball around. And I looked down at my phone after the game, with a text from my mama, “So grateful for having you”…. Happy and Healthy New Year!!