My “grass roots” Drop-Off Style (when I’m not in leggings)

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Me. September 2016. Marin County. Shots by T. Palmer.

I’m not smiling in these (okay, I’m making that semi-weird lip expression), it was the first run & I’m a little rusty and a lot self conscious  – I warm up in the photos you’ll see in a few weeks.  Although, I will admit to feeling like I did a pretty good job pulling together this look from my closet – what? self-validation people!

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This basket weaved leather bag was a great summer purchase – $40.00 from Lola’s in Fairfax, CA – when I wear this bag, I get stopped constantly. My friend Em-J, who’s a very stylin’ twenty-something, surfing, mountain biking woman – has been on a constant search to find this bag, because she knows her friend Mara, has quite the eye for accessories & good prices (I’m kidding, but I do).

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The choker is a long chain, made by Shandi Levy Jewelry. Chokers are here for now, and I’m still not sure if they look right on me, because I don’t have the neck of a ballet dancer. This dress is from H&M, and it was very cheap. I impulsively shortened it, by cutting it with scissors and it came out uneven. It was my multi-talented & close friend Barb, who fixed the dress & made it wearable. It looks shredded and low end, but that doesn’t matter to me – accessories are key. The plaid top, also cut by yours truly, (so happy Grunge is back “in”) is by Zara. The gladiator sandals I LOVE, and found on sale at 02 in Aspen this summer. They are by Vince Camuto.

The sandals I guess seem sexy, because I get some “looks” when wearing them. They are totally flat with no heel, which makes them causal and wearable – but I guess the look of them seems out of the box for some…I’ve just been enjoying pairing them with everything in my closet – including the boring, but repeated yoga pant!!

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My nails are long again, they are acrylic and high maintenance. The males in my life think they are awful, but women usually love them. I love them, they elongate your hands and make me feel like I’m related to J.Lo :).

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I really look like I’m trying here….oy vey!

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The only issue with this dress and wearing it to pick up my kids is the wind factor. It’s always windy in Northern California, especially in San Francisco. I walk with my arms attached to my side or make all my bags messenger, to hold my dress down, I would wear dresses every day if it wasn’t windy –

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And a close up, sunglasses are on for reasons of vanity…

1990’s called, they want their knitted beanies back…

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Like I said previously, my Grandma Sylvia knitted me this skull cap in the 1990’s when they were all the Grunge rage. Every “it girl” from Kate Moss to Drew Barrymore were wearing these things & design houses were charging a hefty price. I wanted one, I was convinced my face with adequate cheeks, would somehow transform into a waif looking Kate Moss if I had access to a skull cap.

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So my amazing Grandmother asked me what colors I wanted, and began knitting me this hat. I’ve saved it all these years, and now they are back in style & I finally have made the admission that wearing this hat will never morph me into a Kate Moss – but it makes me smile, thinking about Sylvia, and how much we loved each other.

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I never knew how to wear the skill cap best – to the back, which felt like a Kippah, which my Jewish brothers wear at Temple or on top of the head like Muslims wear to Mosque. Obviously, this was about fashion not religion & I appreciated this skull cap so much more than if I bought a designer one myself – – this was truly made with love by one of the greatest loves in my life, my Grandma Sylvia.

The New York Times. My Style Validator.

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Me. San Rafael, California. Unable to remove my credit card from the meter

Yes,  this has happened to me before and no, I’ll never learn.  Why aren’t our tax dollars going toward meters that can accommodate various nail lengths? Is our society only built for hands with regular length nails?

Fashion Notes: Moccasins: Minnetonka, Leggings: Lululemon, Bag: Chanel, Top: Zara

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If you look closely, you can see my green credit card stuck..until I solicited help from a very confused meter maid – apparently, they are not in the business of helping people who choose style over function. But, with my “charming” persistence, I was able to get the help I needed.

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Nails are so “in” right now. As usual, I’ve been pulling off these bad boys for a few years. It started with Madonna on the cover of VOGUE, with long, pointy gold nails. I had to have them. No matter how many of you, were horrified by what you labeled “cheesy” – I pulled through and proved you all wrong.

My own mother was not a fan of my long, semi-pointy nails. Until, the Jewish bible (aka, The New York Times) ran a Sunday fashion story on this nail trend, http://www.nytimes.com/2016/04/11/t-magazine/fashion/long-pointed-nails-trend-manicure.html?_r=0

So once again, it has been proven that I have quite a style instinct, thank you Fashion of the Times.

Maybe I can’t type or use a regular phone, maybe I didn’t hang up my phone properly and someone had to hear me yell at my offspring, maybe I accidentally lit a nail on fire and didn’t notice, until my child pointed it out – but it’s all worth it, in the name of style.

Some Haute moms and their long nails:

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Vintage Ain’t Cheap. Crazy Bag Lady.

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When I was in NYC a few weeks ago, at the suggestion of my mother, I strolled into Barney’s to check out their “new” collection of vintage Coach bags from the 1970’s. She was right, I was visibly twitching from the perfect specimen of a bag resting perfectly on my shoulder.

But, I also paused, with a very hefty price tag, it was hard not to feel like somewhat of a sucker. First of all, I had the exact Vintage Coach bag circa 1973, purchased at a local vintage store in Fairfax, California. The bag cost me maybe $40.00 – I remember telling the store owner that THE hippest of the hip were scouring NYC flea markets for the particular bag – almost suggesting she charge me more.

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My original Vintage $40.00 Coach bag, Mill Valley 2015.

I loved this bag and added a fancy gold chain, to make it my very own Couture vintage Coach. But this bag, along with many others was stolen at JFK this summer – never to be seen again. I just hope the thieves appreciate my unique creation.

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So I did get this beautiful bag – the added fringe and the cool packaging was impossible to resist. It’s scratched and marked, and will only get more worn in over time. I know why I love this bag – it’s different, it’s unique, if I see one more Goyard bag, I may start spraying them with ketchup (oh, but they don’t get ruined – I forgot).  I’m only kidding – vintage bags have always excited me, and I’m happy that Coach is recycling, not just re-making the originals.  For more information on Coach’s Vintage Collection at Barney’s click below….

http://www.barneys.com/barneys-new-york?pagetype=brand&prefn1=brand&prefv1=Coach%20Vintage

 

Feeling Exposed, My Workout Style…

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Fashion Notes: Minnetonka moccasins, Lululemon Boogie shorts, Bag purchased in Barcelona, Uniqlo puffy jacket in navy.

I’ve come to the realization that I actually am that person, that “mom” who wears workout clothing every day – even without working out. Is it the support of the spandex, which offers me comfort? Whatever it may be, I still get stopped quite frequently (don’t roll your eyes), complimenting me on my different looks. It always surprises me, because I’m not even wearing proper clothing. If I lived in NYC, London or Paris – no chance I would spend my days in leggings..but I live somewhere, where it’s more acceptable. But it does get boring staring at a sea of Patagonia jackets and Lululemon leggings, and of course “reasonable” sneakers.  So once again, I put together a few looks on what I wear to make my workout clothing sexier, cooler and most importantly stylish.

So these looks are exaggerated, I’m sucking in and only showing you my best angles..When I leave the gym, I change – I add accessories, change my shoes etc.. I know it’s gross that I don’t shower, but who has time?  For more of my workout style tips..http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mara-menachem/how-to-be-a-style-icon-in_b_4898418.html

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Fashion Notes: Vintage GAP fanny pack (don’t be jealous), North Face cropped Jacket, Michael Stars Tank (but badly by me), Bangles by Shandi Levy Jewelry & India, Alternative Leggings

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Fashion Notes: Adidas slides, Chloe T-shirt, Leggings from TJ Max, Chanel Classic bag, Ralph Lauren vintage blue blazer (courtesy of one of my brother’s Bar Mitzvah’s), Door Knocker Earrings from Amazon, Socks??

Yes, Adidas slides are cool! The Adidas slides have been huge in Paris for a while now, especially worn with skirts. The problem for me, is that most people don’t know or care about style..so they see me walking around with socks and slides, and assume I’m a lunatic – which I am, but I also have a “look” – which usually is appreciated in cities like Paris and NYC. I once had an outfit on, and my Step-Father thought it was quite funny looking – as we walked down Madison, a man in a taxi had the taxi pull over, and asked me if I would appear in his boyfriend’s fashion show..”you are fierce”, he said to me. Validation baby!!

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Fashion Notes: Leggings from REI, by North Face, Vintage GAP fanny pack, Tribal leather jacket, Chanel Bag, Elizabeth & James Tank

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Fashion Notes: Miu Miu bag (it’s so huge, I can’t find anything), Marc Jacobs jean skirt, Chloe top, Uniqlo puffy, Armani aviators

I basically re-wear the same things over and over – but try to mix things up, to not seem like such a repeater – but I do a terrible job. I’m a lover of bags and earrings, so that’s my way of making my look a little less boring.

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I realize most of you aren’t running around in cropped shirts – and my style may be influenced by Miami – but style is about having fun – and NO JUDGMENTS!!

Fashion Shots by T. Palmer

 

Patagonia Doesn’t Make You a Better Hiker….

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Me. Roy’s Redwoods. Marin County. January 2015.

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So I wore this at a birthday party in the Redwoods last week. I know, I’m very practical and when it comes to clothing it’s all about function and comfort… obviously not, my moccasins were horrible shoes to trek through mud and water – my exposed legs brushed up against poison oak, to which I neurotically had a mom get me a baby wipe to remove all traces of the “so called” poison. The other parents at the party, were so much more prepared, but they did not judge me  – they merely helped navigate me, due to my poor choice in shoe attire…

In actuality, I am surprisingly outdoorsy  – it’s more because I don’t care if I get dirty.  My close friend, who I will protect by not using names, once made fun of my ankle boot choice to hike up a mountain in Ireland. She was decked out in top to bottom Patagonia – she had a vest and then a jacket to go over the vest, hiking boots and a monogrammed back pack. I was less embarrassed to be seen with her in Ireland, it was in Paris where I made her walk 10 feet behind me – come on, she was wearing head to toe fleece!!!

I was prepared for this hike, dressed in all black, with lots of accessories and heels, this friend mocked my outfit and my ability to actually hike.  I kept repeating that I did the teenage version of “Outward Bound” – she laughed and laughed. Let’s just say it all ended in my favor, I ran up that mountain – and “someone” had to stop several times to catch her breath.  Apparently, wearing Patagonia doesn’t make you a better hiker, it just makes you look like a better hiker…

My point in all this..I may not look the part..but maybe, just maybe..I actually can play the part…..

 

How Does my Ass Look? Haute in HuffPost.

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“…Landing at JFK at nearly 3:00 a.m., I wasn’t paying attention to my surroundings. I was focused on walking from the west side of Central Park to the east, where I could plop on a bench lazily and watch my kids play. “Hold up,” a young guy spoke into his phone, “I’m looking at a damn perfect ass.” 

Click link to read complete article in The Huffington Post…http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mara-menachem/how-does-my-ass-look-lessons-on-raising-boys_b_7232490.html

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Fashion Notes: Leggings: American Apparel, Boots: Frye, Bag: Colombian Mochila, Jacket: Zara, Glasses: Polaroid, Fanny Pack: Peru

 

I Have Nothing to Wear! Huffington Post Style.

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“With twenty minutes left before I would be rudely late, and between the kids bugging me, my hair soaking wet, and my makeup-free face — I was beginning to stress. I threw on my old faithful, a Black A-K-R-I-S dress. A purchase made in “The Back-Room”of Loehmann’s many years ago, a dress that has come to my rescue more times then I can count.” Click below for the rest of the article:

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mara-menachem/i-have-nothing-to-wear_b_7182326.html

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Vintage gold bangles from my mother and grandmother.

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Lanvin White bag, purchased at a consignment shop in Aspen.

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Heels: Pour la Victoire, www.pourlavictoire.com

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Earrings from Neiman Marcus, www.neimanmarcus.com

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Bangles, top from a market in Istanbul. Bottom: Musa Jewelry, http://musa-jewelry.myshopify.com

 

Cheap Dress, Two Ways. Mara’s Picks.

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Mara. Marin County. March 2015.

Fashion Notes: Dress: Urban Outfitters, Bag: Chanel, Heels: Pour la Victoire, www.pourlavictoire.com Jacket: Uniqlo, www.uniqlo.com/us/, Earrings: Door Knockers bought on Amazon

I bought this dress on the sale rack, when I walked into Urban Outfitters in search of a fanny pack that was out of stock on line – I wish this weren’t true. But it is – I still am into fanny packs. The dress was probably like $20, and I knew I could hook it up with amazing accessories. Clothing is fabric and is so easy to make stylish..all with accessories and a little creativity.

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I admit I don’t feel totally comfortable in these socks.  But it doesn’t stop me from showing you how to pull them off. This look with the heels is really something I would only wear at night, on the corner, looking for a date..I’m only kidding. My Bags and shoes are the most expensive part of this look.

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I suggest wearing a longer skirt to show a peak of skin between the socks and end of the skirt. This gap for me is fine, but if you want to show less skin – go for something right above the sock line.

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The jacket open.

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I’m more comfortable negotiating these socks pushed down with ankle boots. A long jacket is amazing over a short dress – it keeps things balanced. And in a city, with wind and walking – something needs to protect you from the dress/wind situation.

Fashion Notes: Dress: Urban Outfitters, Boots: The Frye Company, www.thefryecompany.com, Jean Jacket: Zara, www.zara.com, Sunglasses: Polaroid from Nordstrom, www.nordstrom.com

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And lowering the socks changes the entire look.

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I wear this combo day and night – fashion is exciting and can be outrageous. But no matter how much I love fashion, I tend to put on what feels most comfortable. I am not into feeling awkward and uncomfortable in my own skin for the sake of fashion.

 

Still Going Strong. Me on Backpack Love.

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Fashion Shots: Barbara Myers

“My eyes lit up: was this my mom, or a fashion-forward fairy in disguise? I untied the bag and inside was a little nylon backpack with an oversized no-name logo glued (more like super glued) onto its back pocket.  I knew it was a horrible knockoff of what I really wanted, but no matter..”

Fashion Notes: Backpack: Prada, www.prada.com  and Vintage Army, Leggings: Target, www.target.com, Cuff: Nordstrom, www.nordstrom.com, Glasses: Chanel,www.chanel.com, Kicks: Converse, www.converse.com Jean Jacket: Free People, www.freepeople.com, Gray Heels: Zara, www.zara.com

Click on the link below to read the rest of my piece..

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mara-menachem/post_7137_b_5024002.html?utm_hp_ref=style&ir=Style