Make-Up at the Gym..like a lot of it

Bela. Marin County. May 2017.

I love Bela, she’s so real and doesn’t hide who she is. Ask any woman if they wear make-up to the gym, most will lie. Here’s my mini-interview with Bela, mom, make-up artist & a whole lot more:

Mara: “In your opinion, what’s the most essential item of make-up you need?”

Bela: “So I can’t just pick one, I feel every girl needs concealer, a touch of blush, defined brows, a little bit of eyeliner (although I cake it on) mascara and powder. My favorite translucent powder is Beauty Counter’s loose powder, it’s great for oily skin.”

Mara: “I’m crying of laughter, this is make-up you would use on a film set, or on Broadway!  And this is your normal, every day routine -So What about BB cream, oils, stuff that you can wear to the gym?”

Bela: “Mara, I mean let me be clear, I do FULL face all day, everyday, gym, no-gym, school drop-off or no school drop-off, EVERYDAY”

Mara: “Can I quote you verbatim on Haute Drop-Off”

Bela: “Hell yea”

Bela and I volunteered together, our job was to put make-up on women in a charity fashion show. The women who sat in my chair, came out looking like they were on serious drugs or they lost in a street fight.  Obviously, I tried to convince them of my theory that, “black and blue makes the eyes appear 20 years younger”, horrified because my lie wasn’t sinking in, I gave Bela the ‘save me’ look, and so she did. Bela dove in and fixed my terrible make-up job.  From then on, I knew she had my back -and we became quick friends.

A row of lower back stars.. and how about this delicious kid? Bela grew up in Southern California, and visits her brother in West Hollywood frequently – apparently, he also is head to toe G-L-A-M-O-R-O-U-S.

Sexy shoulders.

Loooong legs..and this gorgeous child was so fun and delicious.

I love Bela’s pop of tattoos  – you don’t know she has them – and then they just appear

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Bela knows how to look good for the camera, and I think I should be her agent :).

Those low ankle boots are a 90’s throw back.. love them, flattering and make short cut-off’s look rock-n-roll…(do people still say that?)

When your mama has legs as long as a super model, you hold on to those things for support.

I always had friends much taller than me, it’s always a funny combination. It’s helpful to have tall friends for so many things, especially if you are trying to get the attention of a bartender. They ALWAYS see the tall people first, weird.

And as mothers, we can’t always pose for photographs – I mean, these kids want to do things, they want to climb  – I love how Bela’s holding her daughter’s faux fur jacket, so she can climb the play structure.

 

 

 

 

Haute Philogynist..(google it)

Jenny. Mama. Feminist Activist. Fashion Designer. Marin Country Mart. May 2017

Jenny has two clothing lines.  Jenny Irene, a children’s line focused on a few simple designs (bonnets, tunics, playsuits, overalls), uses handmade and vintage textiles to create each piece. Her daughter’s adorable bonnet is by Jenny Irene, check out the designs here, www.jennyirene.com 

After the election, Jenny started making ‘smash the patriarchy’ tees for her family and friends. Inundated with requests, Boro Boro Shop was born – a line of t-shirts, totes and enamel pins all with feminist messages. WE all should be wearing them!! www.boroboroshop.com 

Jenny is comfortable in her own skin.. and confident in her style. She’s a beautiful woman who designs what she LOVES- this jumper rules!! I’d look like a house in it, but I have boobs the size of watermelons – so yea..

I love indigo, denim and anything resembling denim.. and so does Jenny. Check out that small red tattoo.. Style tip: if you feel like ya look “uncool” – put your hair in a high bun, I’m telling you – it adds this “I got mad style” vibe.. try it & thank me later.

Do you have a fondness, love or admiration toward women? Then I here by declare you a PHILOGYNIST. A re-usable bag from Jenny’s line. It makes me happy to know that women support other women – sexism is so engrained in society, it’s status quo  – it’s up to all of us to teach, point out and make a big F(ing) deal about misogyny, sexism and inequality facing ALL women.

All I know is when I have a dress with pockets, it’s really exciting – one because I can stick things in them, and two because it feels comfortable, I like having pockets for my hands – sometimes they need a little break.

High bun.

And I had to share this photo of these adorable and well dressed kids.

 

Babydolls -n- Boots, Haute.

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Jenny. Aspen. August 2016.

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Well, well, well isn’t this a throwback to the 1990’s. Every “it” girl wore cowboy boots and baby doll dresses in the 1990’s – I believe Betsey Johnson started the trend with her sexy floral dresses all the girls coveted – back then, her stores had a no return policy, so you had to be sure that pricey dress looked good.

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The nails and small tattoos add that 2016 modern edge to Jenny’s look.

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Cowboy boots are always sexy with a short dress, for shorter legs aim for an ankle boot, sometimes full size cowboy boots can make legs appear shorter – but who cares!!!

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Jenny’s roots are rock-n-roll…this photo is so pure..

Glowing & Haute in Ojai. (and my attempt at “hippie”)

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Sarah. Ojai, California. 2015.

A California mama in Ojai – relaxed, non-complicated, smiling…It’s all very California, even in the way Sarah is dressed – a floppy hat reminiscent of the 70’s, her shiny straight hair, striped fitted dress and an authentic smile… I’ll never look this easy breezy  – right?

There is a difference in style between LA, which is always on point, very sexy and laid back bohemian – but in places like Ojai and Joshua Tree, the style seems to be vintage, and the period 1970’s. I think it’s funny that when people visit Joshua Tree, they even pack like they are headed to a music festival or the original Woodstock.  I’ve attempted this look, but I always come out looking Miami.. like this:

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Shot of me by T. Palmer.

Fashion Notes: Boots: Miss Sixty, Skirt: Zara, Top: vintage & designed knitted by my mama, Bag: Dooney & Bourke 1980 Bucket Bag, Cocktail Ring: Vintage Paris, Earrings: Shandi Levy Jewelry

I’m going to New York City tomorrow, and I haven’t packed – but I know, my suitcase will be filled with much more cool looking and funkier clothing then I wear in California. When I’m in NYC, I pull out my real style and feel like I can get away with anything – it’s so fun. This week I think I may even wear my Adidas high tops all day – and leave the heels at home. CRAAAAAZZZZYYYY!!

Shots by Angela Izzo, www.izzoimages.com – photographer, artist, filmmaker. Instagram https://www.instagram.com/izzoimages/

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She Reminds me of Demi Moore.. Haute.

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Danielle. San Rafael, California. March 2016.

Danielle is the Chief Merchandising Officer at RH. She dresses similar to the simple lines, this home and design company creates. I met Danielle on the soccer field, we were waiting for our kids while they tried out for soccer traveling teams.

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Fashion Notes: Jeans: Mother, Sneakers: Josef Seibel, Jean Shirt: Bella Dahl

I love Mother jeans, they are really flattering for my body type, and make your booty look pretty amazing. The only issue is I get them tight, and when I’m a few pounds heavier, they are so uncomfortable, making it hard to breathe – I really should face the truth and get a size up!!!

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Danielle’s look is very simple, but she has a style that’s laid back and cool. She also reminds me of Demi Moore back in the day.. Style doesn’t have to be that complicated, sometimes it’s simple and effortless.

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Sex. Motherhood. Individuality. This Artist Provokes.

People have always asked me, “So Mara, you grew up with so many men in your life, are you the “girl” who has no women friends?” This is not the case, I adore women – and without my amazing sisters no one would validate my unique blend of Mara crazy.  Susan Copich, with her latest photographic series entitled “Domestic Bliss” reminds me of  long conversations I’ve had with so many of my friends, but especially my friend Susana.  The calls usually consist of me expressing my inner fantasies and engaging in dialogue about societal rules.

Susana usually reminds me that, I don’t follow that many rules, and sites my constant interactions with the authorities. But it’s not the rules I care so much about – it’s the offspring.  When we become mothers, we know as intuitive, intelligent and responsible women that we must adhere to some guidelines….like not escaping to India for three months to “find ourselves”, but instead taking yoga with an Indian instructor.  

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“Mommy Time” from Domestic Bliss Photo Series by Susan Copich (pictured above)

Adrienne Rich, the American Poet wrote about “Motherhood as an institution”, she freely through poetry revealed almost an obsession with retaining one’s self after becoming a mother. The above photograph to me, is an Adrienne Rich poem brought to life.

After I had a baby, I was generously invited by women I didn’t know to join a mommy group. From the first get together, I left feeling depressed.  I left the intellectual stimulation of my work at United Way to discuss baby blankets and teething.  My individuality seemed meaningless, I felt trapped in a sea of emptiness – and felt confused as the role of young woman and mature mother came together.  Leading a “traditional” life was not something I ever thought about, but it happened – and it happened when I was too young to understand the depth of my feelings.  Relating to other women because they have kids, is a ridiculous notion – and it made me feel like I didn’t belong in the club of motherhood.

Because none of my close friends were even in serious relationships at that time, I was lonely on planet motherhood..and forced to find friends who could relate. Only, that proved difficult. I remember meeting other mothers and thinking, are they satisfied being “only” mothers? They discussed their life with spouse and offspring like they were rock stars on stage…So why the hell did I feel like I needed a life outside all this domesticity?

NOW, I know, it’s because like Adrienne Rich, I was obsessed (without knowing) with retaining my self outside of motherhood. And this is when I decided to not discuss my children, when I was out at night. Little did I know, I was embarking on my own feminism experiment all while questioning social norms.

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“Mother’s Milk” from Susan Copich’s Domestic Bliss Photo Series (Susan pictured above)

Attachment and freedom. Sexuality, Individuality and Motherhood.  I’m writing this as I multi-task giving love and care to my youngest, who’s home sick from school.  Liam saw the above shot, and with eyes wide open said “If you made me do that, I would push you and run”. It’s hard to examine something like motherhood without realizing the economic component of Feminism. I have choices, I was able to stay home today and write.  I don’t have to worry about work- child care..it’s easy for me. I have privilege, and therefore; choices. 

Kids open you up to so much, but allow you the excuse to not take risks. Motherhood is a constant struggle as an individual to adhere to social norms, even when you think they are bullshit and stifling.  The struggle is the judgement that comes with rejecting those unwritten rules.

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Susan and her daughters. Upstate New York. January 2015.

Fashion Notes: Jacket: Helmut Lang, Black Skinny Jeans: Citizens of Humanity, Boots: Ugg, Sunglasses: Morgenthal Frederics. The girls are wearing leggings by Carrots, Down Jackets by Canada Goose and Boots by Bogg

Susan Copich: Susan is the photographer and artist behind the acclaimed photo series, “Domestic Bliss”.  With a number of collections housed at The Moen Mason Gallery, http://www.moenmasongallery.com.  Susan’s latest, “Domestic Bliss” series is beyond worthy of the attention.   This particular series in Susan’s body of work is based on her personal experiences as a mother and has touched a nerve.  From the moment my friend forwarded me the link to Susan’s photographs, I immediately wanted to talk about these shots.  Susan captures the struggle, and poked fun of it at the same time. Susan Copich’s series is so thought provoking, It has caused me to intellectualize the shit out of women – motherhood- partnership -Susan made me think and that’s the sign of a great artist.  http://susancopich.com

 

 

 

Music Festival Haute. Hollen & Jen.

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I’ve loved vintage, when it was called “used”..At age 7, (ask my mom) I would jump for joy at the sight of hand me downs, like I had just won the lottery. Salvation Army – Goodwill – and upscale showrooms like Hollen & Jen have always been my happy places. So when in Miami for New Year’s Eve- I had the pleasure of being photographed in looks I found at Hollen & Jen Showroom – Designer Vintage…My Dream!!!

Being influenced by my new town and its bohemian nature – I decided to get in character and pretend I was finding looks for a week long music festival – ahhhhh that would be fun… So here ya go…My music festival editorial..

Photographer Cara called this “the Fleetwood Mac/Stevie Nicks dress”. Perfect attire to see your favorite folk rock band on a beautiful night.  The gold leaf necklace gives the look a Grecian feel.  I think an empire waist flatters most figures – especially when you’re pregnant.  A favorite look used often in the 1970’s, empire waists have stood the test of time.

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This is my ode to the Olsen twins and Lisa Bonet. A favorite look i’ve had since my early days of second hand love-  layering using jackets and vests.  I’m not tall, so in reality, I would have to wear sky high heels to pull this off. And with larger breasts, it’s also really tough to wear non-fitted clothing – but again, I think this looks really cool. And another perfect music festival ensemble- one that’s not in the summer.

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I’ve been using belts as my automatic seamstress for years. This dress, I’ve shortened a good 8 inches – all with the magic of a 1980’s tie belt.  And the off the shoulder action, is only because the dress is a little loose on my frame.  Another benefit of vintage clothing, you really can re-design something for your body..just add a little creativity.

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Accessories and a great pair of jeans – and you can pull anything off.  Feeling funny about showing off your belly? Wear a long necklace with a huge heart to cover most of your belly.  These jeans fit so well.  They’re not tight where my skin goes over the top – which is not a great look when you are revealing your stomach.  Vintage stores have the best collection of jeans, you can find ones to flatter your body shape and they come already worn in!! I adore this white belt with the gold details and have been pulling it off with everything from dresses to leggings.  The fur wrap (I hope it’s faux, but we know it’s old) is great to add warmth and a little 1970’s action…. Heels are tough to wear at a music festival, but I’m not one to back out of a challenge 🙂

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This is not an outfit you can wear sitting on the grass..this mesh shirt looks so fly with the brown leather bomber. The earrings are long and gold – and show up in my wild mane. A tiny, mini skirt is not for everyone – sometimes when it’s denim, it seems more casual and less va va voom.  When I wear very short skirts, I wear boots – usually ankle.  Boots add an edge, and give you rock-n-roll, urban style.

Hollen & Jen Showroom carries an incredible collection of designer vintage – at pretty amazing prices.  Some people get high playing a guitar on stage or jumping out of an airplane, I get high in the presence of second hand clothing, where I can try on things from every generation.  Hollen & Jen have great taste, and can help you pick out the perfect look for a music festival or a South Beach night out – and guess what? No one will be wearing anything remotely like you- – that’s the beauty of vintage.  We’re all unique, and this type of shopping allows us to express our individuality in a fun and creative way.  http://www.hollenandjenshowroom.com

Fashion Shots by the talented, celebrity, rock-n-roll photographer, Cara Bloch, www.carabloch.com

 

Colombian Mamas make Miami SEXIER. Haute Drop-Off.

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Miami. January 2015.

This is really how they do grunge in Colombia.  I mean the country Colombia.  This was taken at a kids jump place, called Sky Zone. I love how these women have taken the re-surfacing style of grunge, and paired ripped jeans with sexy tanks and designer belts/bags.  Miami is special in so many ways—-and it’s hard to leave the house without making an effort, because this is the norm.

Fashion Notes: Belts: Hermes and Moschino, Bags: Louis Vuitton and Chanel, Sneakers: Converse

Excuse the Face. I’m trying to look Good, it takes Concentration.

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Mara. Marin County. 2014.

Fashion Notes: Top: Max Mara, Mini-Jean Skirt: Marc Jacobs, Handbag: Hazel, purchased in Spain, Chain Strap: taken from another bag to add a little Gold, Boots: Joan & David, Glasses: Polaroid, Bracelets: Shandi Levy Jewelry, Africa and Turkey, Earrings: hoops Target and Beaded Shandi Levy. Beaded Bracelet: Emporium Miami

Suggestions: Not everyone will wear such a short shirt – I get that. I actually think a long tank top looks great with a short jean skirt.  This look is pretty sexy, and not one that I would pull off going to pick up my kids from school.  I  would throw on my long jean jacket before walking through the gates.  If you live in a cold climate, wear tights or leggings to keep your legs warm, or over the knee socks and high boots. If it’s hot out, you can wear a jean skirt with converse, sandals or a heel at night – and throw on a long tank top and cool long bag.

Style Story: This Marc Jacobs jean skirt has been hidden away for years. I find being able to wear boots year round, gives me more clothing flexibility. This bag purchased in Barcelona is the coolest, and I added a gold chain from another bag as the strap.  It gives the bag more of a glamorous bohemian feel.  I am pretty sure I bought the boots at a Nordstrom Rack in Miami, I know Joan & David has re-invented themselves and are making some cool shoes. This shirt was a give-a-away from my mom.  Due to my impulsivity, I decided to cut the shirt myself – maybe I miss-judged the length 🙂 I’m wearing two large earrings in each ear – and lots of bracelets.  I love accessories, even if I jingle with every movement and annoy the living daylights out of most people who can hear….ummmm sorry.