Dena. Atlanta, Georgia. November 2014.
Fashion Notes: plaid button down: J.Crew, A-Line Skirt: Anthropology, Boots: purchased in Italy, Bag: Chloe Mini Marcie. Kids: Oillily (via hand me downs)
Dena has 8 kids ranging in age – she’s very young too! Married to a prestigious Rabbi, Dena embraces the traditions of Judaism..all while being stylish. Personally, I have no idea how Dena manages to get dressed, let alone look amazing. But the secret to having so many children — you have lots of older siblings who act like mini-assisitants. I hear one of her kids does hair and make-up on her mom before school drop-off
A-Line skirts are tough to pull off. I’ve tried and feel it makes me look like I have large hips. I happen to be narrow in the hip department (it all seemed to travel to my boobs) and don’t need to look full on bottom and top. For women like Dena, who are narrow on top – A-line skirts look amazing. I would pair it with a fitted top to avoid looking hefty…Dena rocks it well.
When I was living in Atlanta, and miserable, Dena befriended me. She didn’t even mind my mini skirts showing up at her Shabbat dinners – no judgement, they just wanted me to embrace my culture, even though I explained several times that I’m not Jewish, they didn’t believe me (weird). Dena even took me to the Mikveh, where my naked body was inspected by an older Jewish woman. In a Mikveh, you’re not supposed to chat, but I had to know, what did this woman think of my body?
Dena elbowed me quite aggressively to stop my chatter, this was supposed to be a spiritual experience and I was messing it up with my commentary. Finally, my body was “approved”, the woman tapped me on my head and said something about me being kosher. It was then, I was told to dive into a pool of “special” water and completely go under.
For women, the purpose of the Mikveh is to achieve “purity” after menstruation. After, you are supposed to make a baby. I failed, because my boyfriend (before we were married) and I had a huge fight, and I kept yelling “you are ruining my spiritual moment”.
Dena claims I’m changing the details to add humor. Quite possible as I am a master exaggerator, but I don’t know, this is how I recall my Mikveh moment. I’m still waiting for the Mikveh ladies opinion on my body, she hasn’t returned any of my calls.